Do I talk a lot about getting my life organized? I feel like I do. But you know what? It feels like I spend most of my waking moments doing just that – getting my life organized.
I’d love to make it happen so I can think about other things.
Seems that most of my time is spent taking care of all the things that I have, i.e. cars, property, knick-knacks, clothes, etc., and the accompanying cleaning, maintenance, accounting etc. that goes along with all of it. (Speaking of clothes; don’t know about you, but I couldn’t wear everything I have in my closet in a six-month period if I tried). I’m moving into an era where I want to simplify my life more. I want a divorce myself from some of my “stuff!”
My older brother grinned, “You spend the first half of your life trying to accumulate things, and the 2nd half trying to get rid of them.” And the late comic, George Carlin, noted that the only reason we have houses is because we need a place to keep our “stuff.” And when we get more “stuff,” we need to get an even bigger house to store it all in!
How easy would it be for me to get rid of this “stuff?” Just walk around free as a bird?
It’s complicated #1) some of this “stuff” is actually meaningful to me. I knew this when a fire came close to our New Mexico ranch house. Where I always thought I could live on mountaintop with hardly anything, I suddenly realized how heartbroken I would be to lose some of my treasures! So much for me being able to live on a mountaintop! #2) as for all the other, less meaningful “stuff,” the problems get even more difficult. My “stuff” is like having a cast of characters surrounding me in life, and I have relationships with all this “stuff.” And these relationships are demanding! They get lonely and neglected, and clamor for constant attention. More often than not, I don’t have time to call my real friends and continue my real relationships with real people because I’m too busy with my relationships with my “stuff!”
How much do I truly need? Truly need to keep me safe, warm, and, how about – happy? Cause I’m pretty clear at this particular moment that having too much “stuff” is not making me happy. Ah! Now I’m getting down to the heart of the matter!
I’m looking at the concept that less is more. And yes, I know, I know – this is a high-grade problem. And I’m lucky to have it. But am I?
One of the lessons I learned while my husband was sick and fighting terminal illness was how incredibly valuable it is to stop and smell the roses in life. That I should take the time to appreciate what I have, the loved ones in my life, and the very sunlit air that I breath.
It’s distressing to me when I look and see what I’m doing in life is – serving my “stuff” – and, my “stuff” is running me, rather than the other way around!
But this is a solvable problem! While it’s not always easy to sever the relationships with stuff, it can be done – one item at a time.
My “stuff” chokes and overwhelms me, and so often I feel victimized by how complicated and demanding my life has become. But maybe, just maybe, what’s so difficult for me is not the extra items and the demanding duties that I blame for my unhappiness at times, but the hurt, loneliness, anger, confusion, and pain that still filters through my life. These are the harder burdens to carry. And the ones that I have no control over.
I can however, “Clear the Clutter,” as we say in Feng Shui.
You know, I once walked into the bathroom one day and found Patrick on his hands and knees, cleaning out a bathroom cabinet. “What are you doing?” I asked.
“I want it gone. I want it all gone,” he replied, almost maniacally. Clearing out the clutter is a liberating feeling. And it’s one that I’d really like to feel.
And while I can’t change the emotional burden(s) that I carry in life, I can clean out my closet. And I believe I’ll be able to think a lot clearer after I do.
So, I’m tuning up the old Feng Shui rule, “Need it, love it, or leave it.” And some of my “stuff” is just going to have to find another home where someone else can take care of it. Any takers? Adoptions? I’d like to advertise that my “stuff” is well behaved, but I wouldn’t be being truthful.
Lisa, you are so funny you are right about the stuff I get in these cleaning moods. 1 time I was in one and started burning what I did not want I had lots of stuff useless to anyone else I started throwing it in the Hardy outdoor burner. My husband was at the neighbors working he said Tony do you need to go home every now and then I see flames jumping in the air by your house. Tony said, no Karen;s in a cleaning mood best leave her alone. As far as all of your husband’s things I do not know do you store all of it or give it to relative’s or donate it. That would be a tough one. I do know I have been trying to read your book’s and I can not do it. I am crying my eye’s out. They have made me appreciate my husband, he is a cowboy, farrier horse trainer & rancher all in 1. I have often thought what kind of a man would I be attracted to if something happened to him. A business suit and tie guy would not help me out any I have a ranch they have to know how to rope and ride. I enjoy your post. I am assuming you are on your ranch in New Mexico. Hug’s to you girl. At least you can fix your door’s I can not do thing’s like that.
Maybe not the door, but I do like your cleaning style. LOL.
Eileen Munkvold says
1Let not your heart be troubled: believe in God, believe also in me. 2In my Father’s house are many mansions, if it were not so, I would have told you, for I go to prepare a place for you. 3John if I go and prepare a place for you, I come again, and receive you unto the will myself, that where I am, there ye may be also. 4And whither I go, ye know the way.
I have been a “sentimental collector” when I felt trapped in matter, I wanted the roof of my house could be opened like a tin can, all the chaos being sucked into the sky, that God and the angels could sort it and send it back in a wonderful condition (google translate) … Love Eileen
You know, that’s actually a wonderful thought – when deciding what to keep and what to toss, ask for help and make your decision from a higher good. I’m gonna try that!
I believe that Staff have energy.. but not forever, and I believe that we stick to this energy when beloved passed. I’m polish and a mother, I see in our country many poor moms (horrible social treatment for families) that’s why I decided to make a change . I set a profile on facebook (in English – mother helps the mother) in Polish “ Matki pomagaja matkom” and I gather stuff from people who decided to give a second life to their stuff. I’m certain that those stuff will be having great second life with appreciation and respect.. if you ready.. I’m ready too to pass them to needed moms
I’m also positive that you (me or others) may give away our stuff only when this special energy is gone.. so, if you have something give away.. we have moms who need a new jumper, jackets.. and more..
I admire you Lisa, you are so strong and warm person, made of love. I don’t have an easy life, but I read you and gives me a energy to fight for more.. I told my husband that I appreciate you and Patrick as a married couple, as a example for life.. well four son is Patrick Alexander and he dance like crazy when he watch Dirty Dancing.. and he is today 22month old.. you should meet him one day
Warm regards Lisa
Thank you, Agnieszka.
Of coures I mean stuff.. ehh.. English
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
TO ME LIKE TO HAVE THOSE BLACKS. BEFORE AFTER 2 TRUE BROWN LEFT .. THOSE BLACKS …
Holly Anderson says
Soooooo touched by this! I can only imagine how each “boot tells a story” or represents a precious memory…
Everything about Patrick was magical…. esp. his relationship with you…
I was SO EXCITED to purchase an offspring of his beloved stallion Tammen last month.. a bloodline I have always wished for in my breeding program.
I think of Patrick Swayze each time I look at this playful colt.
Thank you for being the elegant “perfect match” for such a loved moviestar as Patrick!
How you are enjoying your colt! I have a couple colts, too, well, call them a couple stallions now (since they are now 4 years old). I’m hoping in March to post photos of them on Facebook under “Swayze Ranch.”
Effie Baily says
Good Luck!! It’s so hard to part with things that triggers a memory. I’ve got to convince myself that the memory will remain without the stuff. You have a huge job. I say call in reinforcements. You will need help. I love the “Need it, Love it, or Leave it.” I may get brave and try that, one room at a time.
I’m new to this site so I’m assuming you are Mr. Swayze’s wife. I actually read in a magazine what was going on before he passed and was so surprised and saddened by it. Please accept my deepest sympathy in losing your husband. It must have been so exciting to be married to such a man. I know what really matters is a relationship not how popular someone is. I’m a person that speaks their mind and I feel you will always carry him and what happened with you. It’s just that the intense pain subsides after a certain amount of time, (everyone is different). I’m very sorry and I wish you healing and to find your way and happiness.
Love, Shirley H. xo
I’m working and your email came up. The boots made me want to cry – so many stories for each pair and you and your closet made me laugh. I just did one closet this am and have redone my patio screens- with the thicker screen that is made for dogs- with the lil roller thing that you use to put the cord thing keeps the screens in place. What a joy! Heehee. Yes- it is overwhelming but when I went to Maui and everyone there seems to follow the simply your life and smell the roses- it inspired me to do the same. Not that it has happened.. But I’m getting there. Your stuff that you don’t want could probably raise good money for a charity of your choice. Easy to do online but a pain to ship but w volunteers – who knows? Just a thought. I am a professional fundraiser so I’d be happy to help in any way or you can just take it to Goodwill and be done.
Thanks for always bringing out emotions. Had to take a break from raising money to laugh at you on the floor with your stuff since I just got off the floor to work. Sometimes – I just want to leave it all when I go. Start all over w a love affair with new stuff!
Eileen Munkvold says
I just love this, Patrick surprise a dirty dancing enthusiastic couple …
Dear Lisa, if there is anything in the “rumor” that you are considering selling the ranch in New Mexico, I think it’s sad. As best selling author, with many Patrick & Lisa fans worldwide, I think many would want to ensure that you could want to keep this place under the auspices of a fund or a trust for the benefit of people affected by pancreatic cancer …
A haven of beauty, love, laughter, joy, hope, horses and dancing in the same spirit as you and Patrick …
I am convinced that many volunteers would be happy to help (google translate) …
God bless, love
Nope, not selling the New Mexico ranch! I love it, and feel so much peace there.
brenda h. says
Thank God your not thinking about selling it!! That indeed would be a heart breaker! Isn’t Patrick’s ashes scattered over yaws beloved New Mex ranch? At first it was hard to understand why he didn’t want to be burried next to Bud and Vicki, however I could just imagine the trouble that would cause due to the mob of fans. To bad you couldn’t exume Bud and Vicki and have a private cemetary on your New Mex Ranch just for family like in the days of the cowboys. I know it’s a crazy thought…I have often thought about starting a pet cemetary for our animals in the back part of our pasture. We have a couple of cats burried in the yard as it is. Boy,,,that Youtube just stirred up the tears again! Do you have some of Patrick’s ashes in an urn? I have an aunt that made such a special memorial garden space w/his urn displayed. So if she sells the lake house, she can take it with her and make another one.
Sorry to have rattled on so,
I did save a small potion of his ashes. Boy, am I glad I did!
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
LISA BUT YOU WRITE IN PERSON OR SOMEONE YOU DO FOR YOU?
NO ……….. OOOOO IMPOSSIBLE TO SELL RANCH NEW MEXICO ……
Just stumbled across this site…..wish you all of the joy and peace that life can bring. Myself and my daughter(and she just turned 19) were great fans of your late husband…….he was such an all round man, a graceful dancer, horseperson, rancher, artist, singer, conservationist, and not to mention incredibly handsome…….so much to admire. There are not too many like him around. Your relationship was something that we can hold up as an example for what we should be aiming for.
But I can only imagine how hard it is to say goodbye to his things……I suppose we do connect things with the people who owned them, and perhaps feel guilt at parting with them. But they are just things at the end of the day, and memories never leave us.
I am glad you are keeping the ranch…..nature has such a way of replenishing our souls.And you have a lifetime tied up there. And as another horseperson, I can safely say that a life without them is not satisfying in the same way.
Take care, good luck with your organizing, and enjoy your life.
Thank you for writing, Darlene.
Eileen Munkvold says
Lovely, lovely Lisa among us …
It is a joy and a pleasure to see you dance, you are so incredibly talented you and Patrick ..
kamla patty says
Lisa I am sorry about your husband and big fan
if his movies and the movie like dirty dancing
he big hit in movie drity dancing Patrick swayze
best dancer Kamla patty
Just to clarify- not trying to drum up business. I’d consult or help you fundraise for free- been doing it for 15 years and like to give of my time and effort for charities.
Eileen Munkvold says
Bless you for that Laura, a good idea …
Miranda Garrison says
I love this blog. Wanting to clear the clutter is such a sign of healing. “Things” hold energy and sometimes one needs to let them flow else where. The de-cluttered life leads to new beginnings! I am an extreme minimalist. I live in one room, very modern and very organized (with special spots for messy.) All of the clothes I wear can be done in two wash loads. Four towels matched, white. The second load, clothes that never need to be ironed. No iron, board, multiple wash loads with toxic soap, water conservation etc.
I am now a raw food vegan, and this plant-based diet allows me to mostly use a Vita Mixer or Breville juicer. A few dishes and done! It is amazing for me now to go into these super markets (headed for the organic produce) and look at all of the crazy processed “food” Americans think they need! Most of my friends have thought me eccentric through the years, but slowly the world seems to be catching up to these ideas. There is even a “Tiny House” movement that you can find on YouTube. I know many people will not desire to be as extreme as I am in getting rid of “stuff,” but many people are seeing the effect of this need for things (landfills!) to our planet. Best of luck to you on this path. I have been “downsizing” for years and know that it is a gradual process. Time and freedom are more valuable to me than the materialistic reality of our times. I know you are on an amazing journey to find out what really is important to you personally and to all of us “earthlings.” What really does it all mean and just what do we need while we are floating through space on this little precious planet… sending you so much love and good thoughts! Miranda
Ah, lovely one. Your footprint is light and you walk in beauty, as always.
kristina gustafsson says
Good idea to start downsizing. Lots of old stuff, as you correctly call it, wont keep you happy. On the contrary, I think that getting rid of things you dont use or need will just make you feel a little bit better once you´ve done it.
What we take with us is what we have in our mind and memories, not in our storage or closets.
Whatever you do with your old stuff, auction for charity, or just the garbage bin, will make you feel better
I have done this an a much smaller scale then you – but I never miss a thing, just gave me more “space” in many aspects. You are on the right track, keep on!
Greetings from Öland, Sweden.
Marcia Studley says
Wonderful blog, Lisa, and something I am fighting with myself. I have to say, personally, it would be a treasure to have a pair of Patrick’s boots so consider me a volunteer :}. I was going to suggest doing something good with the ones you choose to part with, like auctioning for Pancreatic Cancer or the outdoors that Patrick cared so much about. I’m low income and couldn’t participate in something like that myself, but it’s one way to share the joy of Patrick with fans and bring money to worthwhile things. Should you decide to send me a pair, boy would that be special. I’m 1/2 of the gals who did that 13 Days of Christmas many years back when life was a whole lot different, and I was fortunate to be part of the fan club and meet you and spend some time with Patrick at the premier of One Last Dance in Houston. He was such an angel to me at the premier and the next day on the bus when he and Patsy came out and talked with us for a while. I still miss him terribly so can only imagine how you feel. Anyway, good luck with your decluttering. I’d keep a few of the special boots and clothing but then I’d do some good with it, make fans thrilled and maybe raise money in his honor. That’s my two cents! :]
you won”t perhaps recall, but I remember you were in Poland long time ago. That time I was studying in Netherlands. I regretted so badly that I couldn’t that time be ther.
Later on when I saw you and Patrick on a picture I a magazine, both freeze in a dancing pose, he was holding you close lifted up and you band yourself like a “water” in his arms.. I saw that and I thought you both are like one soul and body.
Lisa, how to get together if you are drifted away. I know I love my husband but I’m far away from him with my thoughts, touch and mental presents. I have a difficult time in my life after I born my son (already 22 months ago). I’m losing faith that I can ever come back… I don’t know how, how to start, how to get closer. I feel like a stranger even if I think about physical affection. Since 9 years together he is the one, I never cheated on him… but I feel so lonely and lost, only happiness I got is my son. I don’t know how to express this in English, but you are in a way close to me… I know you had a bumpy ride in your life, but how did you handle to lift up on a surface? How did you deal with your emotions and feeling to let yourself be close again? I stand and see the glass between us..
It is hard and no idea where to start
I tried to make good choices in my life (tried). But mostly, I kept putting one foot in front of the other. One day at a time, sometimes even one moment at a time.
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
LISA CE LA FAI, 6 UNA DONNA FORTE CARA… E PATRICK E’ CON TE SEMPRE
Eileen Munkvold says
You raise me up…
Hi Lisa, just read your blog about stuff and I had a thought. You can donate Patrick’s stuff to the Smithsonian in Washington DC. A lot of actors, musicians have donated their stuff and I think its neat that it is kept in excellent shape and put on view for others to see. Just a thought:)
I may look in to that.
karen kay says
That is an awesome idea!!
andrea pitson says
Lisa I so know how you mean. My house is full of clutter and it rules my life. Sometimes I just want to throw it all out and feel calmer. It must be doubly hard for you. Why not auction off some of Patrick’s boots in aid of PanCan, thus helping the cause so to speak. I know it will be hard but wouldn’t it help.
I admire you so much, I hope the de-clutter goes well and you feel a bit more liberated.
Brenda H says
Yea, I took one of the best courses when I was still working, “getting rid of stress”. Hmm.. what a thought..the first item on the agenda was getting rid of the clutter in your life. At first I thought they were talking about husbands (teehe), then I realized it was physical clutter or “stuff”. I went home and have been working on that every since then(since 2009). Wow!! It does make a difference! However, in your case, you could probably fund the Pancreatic Cancer Research by selling a couple of items of Patrick’s things. Your brother was “right on” with his saying the first half of life you spend collecting and the second half you spend getting rid of. Absolutely correct. Why does it take our whole lives to realize that? Especially us Americans! We are really spoiled! But HEY, wouldn’t live anywhere else, but the “good ole US of A”!!
Thanks again for sharing with us.
Love from Texas
Dear Lisa, I would die for a pair of Patrick’s boots! Keep going huni you are doing so well, God bless ♥ ♥
I am surrounded by my husbands stuff but I find comfort in this. I lost him 18 months ago to oesophagal cancer which he fought so hard to stay with us. He was 46 years old. I met him when I was 13 and married at 18 . We have 2 fantastic kids and his final wish was to walk his daughter down the aisle and thankfully he succeeded,Two weeks ago I became a Grandma to a baby girl. The house has new life in it again.
Best to you, Elaine.
I lost my hubby 4 1/2 yrs ago to esophageal cancer and just this year I am finally able to part with a few of his things. I need to keep many of his things yet. It just feels comforting still to see them in the closet such as your Patrick’s boots. . Elaine, sorry about the EC. If you are interested, I belong to a great group of EC widows.
Thanks for passing that along, Cyndi.
Cyndi thanks for your comment. I would love to join the support group for O C widows.
Elaine, my email is [email protected]. I would have one of the moderators invite you to the esophageal widows group. Just email me.
Sioux Schaefer says
Thank you for sharing these feelings as so many of us are going through the same thing. I have children so some of my “stuff” will go to them. I can remember buying or someone giving me a lot of this. It meant the world at the time but now my world has changed and I know longer have much of the emotional ties. If something breaks it is almost a relief because it went out on it’s own time and I didn’t have to make the decision. With clothes once I put them in a bag(even if I have the bag for months) they will be donated to a church that sends them to less privileged countries than ours. (ok, I feel good about that. BUT, who really wants all my stuff. More of my friends think the same way as I do. Answer?????? I only have an acre but every bit of it has something growing, or built upon or just PARKED! At night when it is dark I give my horses their last feeding, walking back to the house because everything is cloaked in blackness I look up at the stars and say THIS IS MINE. Sorry this was so long but is was as if I needed to talk to you. Good luck with this enormous undertaking. Sioux
Hi Lisa give some of your husband stuff to us, the fans : )) you know we collect everything ha ha but not the boots my size isn’t 10 lol
I like your pictures a lot
Lindsay Luckadoo says
I LOVE this blog, Lisa! I need to do the same thing!!! I just keep putting it off. I did manage to clean a couple of drawers full of “stuff” in my bedroom and bathroom, though. I keep telling myself “One drawer/closet at a time…” 🙂
As always, much much love to you!! XX
PS. Is that Kuma? He sure has grown since the other pics of him you’ve posted! He’s beautiful!!!
The one and only. 140 lbs of pure love.
Nadine Wood says
Hi Lisa, omg… that’sa lot of boots. I can now see why it takes some time between blogs. Clearing, thinning down, oganizing is a daunting task. And why is it when we do it, it becomes sooo overwhelming? And once we begin it seems we’ve created a bigger mess than before. one thing to remember when cleaning “it always looks worse before it looks better”, do you find this to be true? I sometimes feel like: why did I start doing this now? I imagine you and Patrick did accumulate lots of stuff but with the life that you led you needed to. I wish you perseverance. It is not going to be easy, you have to be careful and reflective, afterall it isn’t just stuff, its Patrick and Lisa Swayze’s stuff. Even if you can easily part with things others will find it valuable just b/c of its prior owner. just a thought you can save a couple boots: maybe one that was Patrick’s favorite and one that you liked seeing him wear(your favorite). The rest sell, auction or whatever comes ti mind. you can use some of the $ to possibly set up an award for a stdent in the arts at Waltrip inPatrick’s memory, or PS pan csn research or even use what ever you get to create a special site at the New Mex ranch that you can celebrate Patrick ( no onr but you n maybe family needs to know where that place is. I don’t know where his final resting place is but its just a thought. Anyway gd luck let us kno how it turns out. Rainbows to you as always, <3 Nadine
Yes, at some point I will auction some of his things. I thought it was funny that you wondered if my blogs where fewer because of handling all my “stuff.” You’re right! Hah! My blogs are another thing that gets put on the back burner! Who has time?
Eileen Munkvold says
Hi Lisa! Blogging is therapy, you have a unique ability to say much in few words …
This is my little cousin in Houston, Texas. Maybe he can help you with your horses when he grows up …
Have a nice day, hug …
Jill Blackwelder says
I like your way of thinking! I spend my time trying to figure out what I need to do next and get NOTHING done! I have lived in my house almost 3 years and still have unpacked boxes in the basement! What are the chances that I need any of that stuff if I haven’t needed it for 3 years? So irritating!
I pray for you often even though you do not know me. I have read all of yours and Patrick’s books; you were an awesome couple. I mourned for you and with you.
Keep up the good work! You are a great inspiration!
By the way, I’ll be happy to take a pair of those boots out of the way!
The boxes in the basement – hilarious! I ca so relate.
Jill Blackwelder says
Does Lisa actually read the posts or staff members?
It’s ME, Lisa!
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
DAVVERO RISPONDI TU LISA??? BACI
Nicki Howells says
Good for you Lisa!! Adoptions eh,I’d adopt a pair of them boots 😉 love the photo of you fixing the door….he’s got a mischievous look in his eye watching you 😉 take care xx
Ingrid Mennella says
Hi Lisa- I would love to adopt some of your “stuff”…but I have an even better idea; what about selling your “stuff” as a fund raiser for Patrick’s pancreatic cancer fund. I would be willing to donate! And I am so glad that your “stuff” is not holding you back. The things that bring precious memories to mind – they have to stay. The rest, it’s just stuff!
You go girl-
JULIE CLEMENTS. UK says
Life is really falling into place now you are busy clearing and repairing, love your pic of dogs they both look so laid back and relaxed letting you get on with the repairs.
It is funny how we keep so many things around us, and when we have a mad declutter as my mother says it’s quite shocking to see what you hoard and keep and sometimes never wear, I know Lisa it is quite a thing to take a step back and say did I really need all these clothes and bags and shoes, and at the time of course you wanted them but when you start a clear out it can be a shock as you just didn’t realise till now how much you have gathered through time.
Time to refresh the wardrobe and have fun doing so get stuck in and enjoy life.
Lots of love god bless love julie xxox
I see you’re cleaning your “stuff”, i think it’s great!! I always clean my closet to throw things that are not going to serve but i have affection or remind me a special time, although i admit that i would keep if for almost all (but would need another home and more closets) , but if for my husband would keep just what is getting in the last year. On he has no problem in throwing his stuff and incidentally also mine. He doesn’t care what matters is that it is free site.
I think the problem is that before getting rid of things “will return to become fashionable”? and come back to save some of them.
Cleaning the clutter is a way to relax and no to have stress. We keep to many things in closets and we have to empty them from time to time to make way for new things. As for one I’m about to adopt a pair of Patrick’s boots.
It would be wonderful to have something personal to him as an amazing memory. I’m ready when is?
All my love dear as always and take care. God bless to you. Love
One day I will auction some of his stuff. I will let you know. Have to say, his boot collection is awesome, and he loved them!
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
KEEP THOSE he liked MORE, AND YOU
RECALL MORE ‘PATRICK, MAYBE FOR A CHANCE THAT YOU X’ WAS SPECIAL. COUNCIL OF AUCTION AND THE REST YOU MONEY DARLI PANCREATIC CANCER FOUNDATION TO SUPPORT YOU. ARE YOU A GREAT WOMAN. AND YOU HAD A GREAT MAN .. HE LOVES YOU FROM HEAVEN
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
FANS OF PATRICK WE WANT A PAIR OF BOOTS HEAD … MONEY X CANCER PACREATIC
Violet humphries says
Just take one day at a time because he really love you and you love him I lost my son to cancer it will be 13 years before Christmas this year there not a day goes by I don’t think of him I think of him just like you do ,miss seeing him on t.v love his song just know his love with you Violet
Cindy Kirouac says
Wow, how could anyone wear that many boots?
Just trying to figure out what pair to wear would be daunting!!
Think of the things that you no longer need, love, or want as being a “blessing” to someone else.
It’s easier to get rid of “stuff” when you look at it in that perspective, at least it works for me.
When it robs you of your energy and spirit, it’s time to go…….
I’m keeping that in mind!
Tam Dan says
Hi Lisa. I understand what you’re talking about with all of the ‘stuff’ and how it affects our lives. My family and I moved 2 years ago from Tropical North Queensland in Australia to southern Australia (about 3.5 thousand kms) away from everyone and everything we knew and loved to start a new life. When we moved, we sold / threw out / gave away absolutely everything that wasn’t absolutely essential to day to day life and did the move with what my 9 year old daughter and I could take on the plane and what my Husband could take in the car and we moved into a fully furnished unit.
It’s amazing the things that you keep for various reasons, but the letting go was almost as wonderful and completely terrifying as the move itself.
Keep at it Lisa, and remember the golden rule that if you don’t absolutely need it for day to day life or it has significant emotional value, then do you really need something???
PS, I never knew that Patrick had such a wonderful shoe collection.
Sonia Cook says
Great article! I’m 47, single and no kids at home anymore. I too have 14 years of “stuff” in a house I’m ready to start decluttering and possibly downsizing! Why not! Life is too short and it is an adventure I’d like to enjoy rather than worrying about my “stuff”!
Hah! I’m with you on that!
Janette Stacy says
Your husband Patrick was a truly outstanding actor, my favorite movies are Roadhouse and Dirty Dancing, if you are really getting rid of his boots I would cherish a pair if you can spare. thanks
John Knight says
This my friend has been a painful one for me to read and more painful in making the attempts to “clean house”, so to speak. The truth of the matter being that when the time came, all the kids and I would get together and share experiences, tell tales of what use to be, and what if not get rid of, share and divide and remember the day as a family day…Friends would be invited to, to help ease the and share the burden. Well, all I can say is that it was a wonderful dream, long shot, and of course, I have yet to get rid my stuff, this stuff, his stuff, and no offer of help from anyone, kids or family or otherwise. yes, I still have “the stuff” and what I have gotten rid of, went and bought more to replace it. Like you most of the clothing I have are from another era, which wouldn’t matter if they fit and if I had some where to wear them….But, as always I might need that and even though it doesn’t fit.; it might be incentive to exercise, lose weight and wear it once again. Which is realistically doubtful, but we seem to be able to convince ourselves, just as easily as our Bud’s did, that we need it and will do it.
My animal’s, well now, that’s my life my worry. The doctor said I needed to get rid of them because of allergies and my health. I told him it was a fat chance, wasn’t going to happen, and they were with me when I needed them and I would not turn my back on them now. That’s just how I feel and it was the end of the conversation..
But I did learn that I have more backbone than I thought and hope to get emotionally stronger as time goes on. I know I will, as long as I attempt to get out of myself, rely on God or my Higher Power, and find a new purpose. But first, I need to realize the “stuff” isn’t my problem, even though, I do need to lighten my load. But the baggage of a broken heart, lose of my other half, and find peace, comfort and love for myself to know that no matter what I can and will do this. I will live my life, take care of what I must and know that to get rid of doesn’t mean to clutter my life with more than I can handle. To realize that he didn’t desert me, that he had no choice, and to relieve myself from all the negative, hateful, angry “stuff” and move on to better pastures.. not only feelings about them, but all the things I’ve had to deal with while he were living and now that he are gone and really let go of the blame and guilt and not let my own thoughts destroy all that we had that was good and precious to me. I won’t got into detail, but I often thought, How can someone so very, very good be so, very, very bad. The answer being because I allowed a lot of things I shouldn’t and even when I didn’t accept unacceptable behavior, I still allowed him to control me and that should have never been and the last couple of years I made many strides and accomplishments( for spite) but I still did them. I’ve dealt with many issues, only to be thrown back to the beginning.
Which is I am learning to know, live and be me again. I need to find the good, live the good, find the bad and change it, know who I was, who I am and who I want to be, setting reachable goals for myself doing things to make myself content, peaceful and looking ahead to what is good and acceptable to me.. But most of all, learn to be grateful, for all I have and have done, who I was and what I am, know that with my Higher Power, I can do all things because He will strengthen me.. God Bless You and Be A Blessing.
I hear ya. And it take time, time, time. But I’m sure you already know that. You’re reminds me that we need to do our best to be good to ourselves every chance we get.
Joan Knight says
So true, But it’s not easy , not being the care giver, but knowing that’s what we must be for ourselves and our furry friends/children (lol) I remember times with Bud the overwhelming feelings of responsibility and wondering if it would ever get done so we and could enjoy sometime together. I wonder what was sooo important. Or I hear someone being disrespectful towards their husband/wife and think one day you’ll eat those words.. And yes be good to ourselves, realizing we’re going to make mistakes but knowing all mistakes will make us stronger. Love for ourselves deeper and faith a little stronger.
(sorry I hit the h instead of the a my name is Joan but no matter I knew who youi meant)
Laurie barber says
I’m a hard working mother, I will take anything. I tried writing twice now, but never went through, l can only say now, I’m very sincere , I’ve gone through touch times , I’m a TSA officer, simple raising my kids on my own. I also have Crones Disease. But continue in pain, a lot to only keep my house. If you saw me you would think I am cute, smart dedicated, but as off recently I have been in in incredable pain. Then I saw you, and your positivity stays strong. My address is 315 westwinds drive palm harbor Florida 34683 If you can help me, in any way, you have no idea how it could change my life, ill take anything your giving. I loved your husband too,, my Very fav actor of all time God bless us all, you I still follow, I wish I was more like you. Thanks for listening, Lauroe Barber(727-251-9746) [email protected]
First I have to ask the big brown dog is that a marking on his back or did he get hurt. I like him he is adorable and looks like he would be a lot of company. And like he is Mr. innocent if he is the screen breaker. The white one looks a wee bit older and calmer and like she follows all the rules. I will share a few things with you. Don’t get rid of things that you are not sure that you want to part with. Because once they are gone you can never get them back. Now as for your things I will tell you what I was told. If you have not needed it, touched it, worn it, or used it in the past 6 months get rid of it. And do it as close to garbage day as possible. Let someone put it out for you while you take a drive or something on garbage day. When you come back it is gone and you have to let it go. I donate stuff a lot and felt dumb because I donated my Fathers Jacket by accident.. I woke up the pastor and his wife at the church that I donated it to in the middle of the night, and had to dig through piles of stuff until I found it. My Pops is gone but I still wear that blue jean jacket when it is breezy. So trust me you don’t want to show up in the middle of the night trying to retrieve things that you are not sure that you want to part with. I do piles and then wait a day or two and go donate and forget what I donated. Good Luck My friend said I have part Pack Rat in my blood. Have a great day and God Bless…. P.S.. one last thing don’t give it to people you know because I did that and ask for it back. So I say you keep until you are ready to get rid of it and then make sure it goes far far away.
Good advice! And the brown dog – he’s a Rhodesian Ridgeback, and the stripe on his back is their trademark! It’s hair growing the opposite way!
One thing that has happened by reading your blog is what would I do with all of our property I could not take care of rental’s, cow’s & ranch land. Do you sell it? Keep it? But I read on your twitter page 1 lady had a suggestion this is just a suggestion. Have a auction to benefit the Pancreas Cancer Research, this disease is as deadly as Ovarian Cancer and no warning signs. My husband has had a lot of weight loss but, they can not find any thing wrong. His liver test are all good all blood work is good. I still worry. Thanks for listening.
Thanks, Karen. And I certainly plan to have an auction (or various auctions) so that the items can benefit pancreatic cancer research. Just don’t know when.
You will when you are ready. When my dad passed mom went in stages , 1st everything stayed the way daddy left it. 2. she started cleaning and told us to take 1 item of his clothing. 3. she boxed it up. 4. She is still storing it and it has been 18 yrs.
I was thinking of you today all the obligations that are on your shoulder’s. The houses, the stuff, the animals the list goes on and on. Then out of the blue today Tony say’s I am leaving a lot of little tree’s around the farm, that way when I am gone it will be easier for you subdivide. If he went before me I will have a lot of things to take care of the way we do it now we are a team he does this and I do the other. I absolutely love your horses the colt’s are beautiful.
I took our horse to a chiropractor yesterday and he seems to be a lot better. My mom has been living with breast cancer for 8 yrs it has went to her bones so cancer affects everyone. Dreadful disease. Good luck girl. Be careful what you burn I have had a few regrets on things that went up in flames.
I’m a big believer in “when you’re ready'” you will. How will you know? If you’re asking that question, then you’re not ready!
That is right you will know when you are ready to part with the things.
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
LISA IF YOU CAN PUT THE AUCTION ON THIS SITE, AND WE’LL HELP YOU GLADLY … PANCREATIC CANCER RESEARCH MUST BE SUPPORTED BY WHO SUPPORTS YOU AND PATRICK <3
From Spain, just say: you are a constant inspiration. Thanks!
My husband and I moved aboard a sailboat recently for the second time in our life together. We lived aboard, then bought a house, then ditched the house for another boat. Stuff and responsibility of caring for our stuff was something we didn’t like. We love our life aboard, now : ) We have to live by your principle of keeping things only if they have a purpose and place to be be kept.
Also, in the midst of loss, I’ve sewn quilts for families who have lost a loved one, from the loved ones clothes. Recently, I did three quilts for three children whose father died from cancer. The oldest son has his with him at college, and the the younger siblings plan to take their quilts with them, as well, in a few years.
Doing this was a wonderful blessing to me, to help families who didn’t want to part with something (clothes) which were a piece of someone loved so much; but, it had to go in some way. The quilts seemed to be a good fit to condense these pieces, these memories, and ended up something to be held and cherished – as their loved one was.
God bless you, Lisa : )
The quilts – what a wonderful idea. I’ll have to pass that along to others (myself included, except mine will be a cowboy quilt)! Thank you.
Wanted to ask you a question about yours and Patrick ranch in New Mexico if you want to ask thats great if not I fully understand,We ( meaning Patrick fans) have read that it is named Rancho De Dias Alegres( Ranch of Happy Days and it was truned into a wildlife preserve and timber farm ,and was also wondering if this is pics of it on this website? http://www.luxist.com/2008/10/21/rancho-alegre-estate-of-the-day/ any info you can give us would be so great for his fans,we all know he loved both his ranches so much.Thank You.
As far as I know, there should be no pictures of the ranch (except of the exterior pretty far away). But I’ll check it out.
Nope. Not it.
Thank you Lisa,Is the name Ranch of Happy Days right,So love that it may be named that.just kinda fits for such a beautiful place.
No, Julia, this is not the ranch Dias Alegres, of Patrick and Lisa. As she said, can only be viewed from far away and by the party outside.
Brenda H. says
Julia,,,,that place gives me the creeps!!!
Eileen Munkvold says
My first thought was, poor Lisa for a gruesome place! She can stay in my guest room, with light yellow walls, quilt on the bed, glass angels in the window and white lace curtains, as long as she wanted. All meals included!
I would of course not mentioned the Swayze ranch in such a way if she really lived there and found peace there …
Oh I’m glad that this is not Patrick and Lisa’s home …
Rachel Marini says
My older brother grinned, “You spend the first half of your life trying to accumulate things, and the 2nd half trying to get rid of them.”
And this —
My “stuff” is like having a cast of characters surrounding me in life, and I have relationships with all this “stuff.” And these relationships are demanding! They get lonely and neglected, and clamor for constant attention. More often than not, I don’t have time to call my real friends and continue my real relationships with real people because I’m too busy with my relationships with my “stuff!”
SO true! Thank you for the reminder! There are a few charities near & dear to my heart, as we have family on both sides doing mission work in Thailand & Africa, that would be more than happy to take some “stuff” off your hands 🙂 Isn’t it crazy/frightening to think that in parts of the world, people don’t own a single pair of shoes? We are abundantly blessed.
Thanks for your words, as always!
Sioux Schaefer says
These people have some wonderful ideas about lightening our our emotional captors. In this last month I have lost 2 friends to pancreatic cancer. It was a hell of an ugly ride both physically and emotionally for all involved but especially the immediate family. I am still holding on to things of my father’s and he passed in 1987. People ask and I say “but this has so many good memories of my dad.” When you are ready I would think Patrick would want you to raise money for research of the horrible disease you both fought for so long and you even longer. I think it would make him very happy to know he is still helping although we can no longer see him. Can we hold all of our memories in our heart without a lot of the material reminders? I think we can but it is a long process of letting go and I don’t know if we ever reach an end. Take Care,
Lisa it’s me Sandra again ( super force days lol) I’m really bad with keeping things, I just recently gave up my championship saddle I had forever ~ just so I knew I could get rid of something I though meant so much to me. But with the money I bought my ten yr old daughter her first saddle so it felt good. But I still think what if one day I need it.. Lol it’s all baby steps for you, you know in your heart what’s best for this stuff. Just make sure you’re really ready to part with it. And I agree with the auction part, then you can raise money for whatever charity you wish. Patrick would be proud of your strength ~ keep that chin up your doing great XXXOOO
I was watching dirty dancing last night and afterwards on got on your website and was so glad you posted another blog. I check everyday. You have been quiet lately. we miss you. Love patricks boots. Kuma is great. Patrick would be so proud of him. I think its great that you still treasure all of patrick’s stuff. Don’t forget you where married to the sexiest man alive. Haha You will know when you are ready to auction things off. I hope to get in on the auction. Much love to you.
it feels universally like a time when we would all be well served to simplify.
Up until her final days on this planet, my worldly and spiritual grandmother spent her time sorting her “stuff”, feeling overwhelmed by it, she never allowed herself to relax until it was sorted and organized.
It was never finished. She was never free.
Someone once said “stuff rides the souls of man”.
Be bold Lisa.
You know what to do.
Yesterday I thought about this blog and how kind it is of you share your thoughts and a part of your life with us. Thank you!
Clearing a house from time to time is not a bad thing for sure but my opinion is that you should keep Patrick’s boots if your hearts clings to it and they are also sort of a meaning because he walked beside you during your time together in this boots.
By the way: I like your dogs.
What about your horses actually? How often do you undertake rides? Would love to see some pictures of your horses in the next blog.
Have a nice time, Melanie
I’ve been tempted to write about my horses. At some point I will! Haven’t gotten to do much riding (see blog on how my “stuff” takes all of my time), but I’m hoping to change that!
When I ride it makes me feel full of energy. Horses give you freedom. I can also understand that you and Patrick rode together and sometimes we do not want to ride alone. The photos I have seen of the horses are gorgeous.
team swayzangel says
we will call you, to make you leave our project is almost here! As you know for 3 years as a tribute to Patrick (September 14) we deliver to France, a wreath on Patrick Star Hollywood Boulevard!
52 people have already shown to present this tribute and we want you to leave this project we want to ennormement heart ! You know that our admiration remains intact, and that in the future, if you could, we would make it even more useful for us to help the search !
Grace and Aurelie
rhoda smith says
heyyyyyyyyyyy lisa you can send me just a shirt you wore and one of patruicks that would be great.id put them in glass and hang them in my computer room.love ya lady hope your days are shineing
rhoda smith says
I meant Patrick geesh I cant type my fingers wants to go different ways
Jacki Pienta says
You sitting there in front of your doors…putting in screens yourself is an inspiration to me! I’ve been looking at a hole in mine for two years, just waiting for my guy to fix it…never got fixed and now he left. SOOOO…I think I am going to fix the hole myself! Thanks for the inspiration. Your blog inspires me every time I read it! Be Strong!
karen kay says
She has inspired me to waiting on mine to hang a shower rod just done it myself. He looked at it and said little low on the right. I said just hush been sitting there for 3 months tired of waling around it. Now I am sure he saw no need in it since we have doors but I wanted to hang a fancy curtain over the doors. Today is our 19 yr anniversary I am waiting to see if he remembers.
Thank you Lisa, when I saw you sitting there putting screen wire on I thought if she can do that, I can hang my own curtain rod. You inspire me everytime I read your blog. Give yourself a big hug.
Debra Lee says
A friend just emailed this to me and thought I would share:
Besides the noble art of getting things done..
There is the noble art of having things undone..
The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of nonessentials
I have another one I discovered it on a tattooed guy in my holiday. I talked to him because of that and he told me that he let tattooed that because of the dead of his granddad and I internalize it. Maybe you know it already.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
I have been reading the posts, As I, myself, am having the same problems with my “stuff”. With having fibromyalgia and living in constant pain, there are only a few hours in a day that I am pain free, and I spend that time dealing with “stuff”.
We lost our daughter in 2000 and I was groping just to have some of her “stuff”. The place where she lived was stripped of all of her belongings, and you could not even tell that she lived there, not even a single piece of paper with her name on it. After 2 years of court battles, we were finally granted grandparents visitation rights of my grandson who has Aspergers which is a type of autism. 2 years ago, in 2011, we were given the opportunity to adopt my grandson which of course we did. To this day, I still wish that I had some of my daughters “stuff” to give to my grandson. He was only a year and a half when she passed, and became our angel.
We are down to three horses and I basically do hippotherapy now due to my lack of strength and balance. However, we still take our horses every year to the County Hospice children’s camp, “Camp “Wings” which is a bereavement camp for children.
Long story short, I believe that there are actually different types of “stuff”. Daily “stuff” and souvenirs which we tend to accumulate over the years, which is what takes most of our daily time, to clean, and reorganize which actually needs to be given to some type of organization or goodwill in order to de-clutter our lives. Then there is the personal “stuff”, the belongings 2 people we have loved and lost, that we hold so dear to our heart. That type of “stuff” should be handled with tender care.
I look forward to the declutter of the daily “stuff” which would allow me time with my dogs, and my horses, and my family.
You are a phenomenal woman who has accomplished much in her life. As I myself have been married for 28 years, I also understand what the word marriage means. You have a soul mate, who is always with you.
Before I began reading this blog, I was watching “One Last Dance”. I thank you for that movie. The Directing, the choreography and the perfect synchronization, is nothing short of amazing!
When you get a chance, please have someone update the Events section of this website. It breaks my heart that at one time I saw that you were close to me, and I would have loved to have heard you speak.
I look forward to hearing updates of your blog.
Best wishes and good luck in all of your endeavors.
Another great reason to keeps something – if it “lifts you up” every time you look at it (that falls into the I “love it” department). We need the things around us that lift us up, not the stuff that you look at and say, “AAAAArrrgh!!” I think I need to reweigh my “stuff” so that there are more “Ahhhhs” than “AAAAArrrghs.”
Gary and Karen Backus says
Dear Lisa, I have absolutely no words of wisdom for you this morning! All that I do know without a single doubt is that YOU, only YOU, have to do what you feel is right in your heart and, in the future, what you can “look back on” and have no regrets!! You are in a very unique place – not only as a “normal widow,” but also as a widow of a very talented star in the entertainment field. When I read that Patrick NEVER made you feel as though you were in the background that spoke VOLUMES about your husband and how highly he thought of you and how very proud of you that he was!!
I guess, for us, the bottom line, and this is what we always do when any decision would normally involve our son or his two sons, Nic and Zac, (Charlie, who was killed in a car accident 12 years ago,) we all try to go by the rule of thumb of “What would our Charlie do, or what would he want us to do?” However, that has no longer been a reason that we would ever have to go by, as we have been “shut out” of our grandsons’ lives by his wife for the past 8 years….. This is NOT to ask for sympathy. It is only to say that this is how it is, and it hurts our hearts so very badly!! Thank the Lord that you do not have to put up with this kind of continuing hurt to your heart!
Again, dear Lisa, all that I can say at this time is to “stand your ground” on what you believe to be right, not only for you but also for Patrick…… After all, how would you respond if Patrick was standing there right beside you??? I would think that you would give him the same support that he always gave to you!!
There are no easy answers but, just try to “clear away the clutter from your mind” of all of the “stuff” that is weighing you down. It seems as though it is keeping you from doing what your heart tells is right….. I hope that I have not offended you……………. Love and prayers for you and Patrick always, Karen.
You could definitely see your skills in the paintings you write. The world hopes for more passionate writers such as you who aren’t afraid to say how they believe. At all times follow your heart.
nadine wood says
Hi Lisa, omg… that’sa lot of boots. I can now see why it takes some time between blogs. Clearing, thinning down, organizing is a daunting task. and why is it when we do it, it becomes sooo overwhelming? And once we begin it seems we’ve created a bigger mess than before. One thing to remember when cleaning ” it always looks worse before it looks better”, do you find this to be true? I sometimes feel like: why did I start doing this now? I imagine that you and Patrick did accumulate lots of stuff, but with the life that you led you needed to. I wish you perseverance. It is not going to be easy, you have to be careful and reflective, after all it isn’t just STUFF, it’s Patrick and Lisa Swayze’s stuff. Even if you can easily part with things others will find it valuable just because of its prior owners.
Just a thought, you can save a couple of boots, maybe one that was Patrick’s favorite and one that you liked seeing him wear (your favorite). The rest you can sell, auction, or whatever comes to mind. You can use some of the $ to possibly set up an award for a student in the Arts at Waltrip in Patrick’s memory or the PSwayze pan can research fund or even use whatever you get to create a special site at the New Mex ranch that you can celebrate Patrick (no one but you n family needs to know where that place is). I don’t know where P’s final resting place is but it’s just a thought. Anyway good luck let us know how it turns out . Rainbows to you as always <3. Nadine
nadine wood says
P.S . when you decide to auction I have a favorite piece of Patrick’s memorabilia I’ve always admired and would definitely be interested in. Good Luck Lisa XOX nadine
Carla Vanlonkhuyzen says
Lisa, beautiful dog! I’am at that place in my life also. There is something about getting rid of stuff that’s freeing, a sense of accomplishment . A feeling of control, realizing what’s important as you said. God bless you Lisa
This article is very timely for me. My husband is vacationing with my 2 children in order to give me some peace so that I can declutter and organize our home for 2 entire days. Someone once suggested to me that In order to avoid having piles of your children’s art to take a photo of them holding it and to label it with their age. I don’t know why but I see a magazine cover photo of you surrounded by or emerging from a pile of his boots. Their is a good opportunity for some artistic photography with his items perhaps integrating some old photos. I think the glass has to be at least half full in order to take on a huge “decluttering”. I think that perhaps material items can bring us joy, memories but sometimes they are a distraction or purposeful cluttering of the pain that lies beneath. After nine months of grieving I am ready to start this. And here I thought that ivwas simply cleaning my house! But first, a coffee pf course. 🙂
That’s a good idea. If I know something should go but am still clingy, I can take a photo. Easier to store!
Yes and maybe through a digital photobook
of some type. That way you don’t then have
photos to organize! This could be a fun project.
my dear fox, you are very close to me, I have a similar life to yours, my husband also died in 2009, also in the pancreas, was 18 years in the trolley, we were so happy
once you write about me, I have a lump in his throat
I live in Poland, and you’re so close to me through this blog,
it is true that the common stories glad tidings
Also, maybe you don’t need to get rid of
his stuff. Perhaps you could build a museum
In his honour thus decluttering your own
space. A public version of your photo book
could be for sale with proceeds going to cancer
research, or grants for young actors or money
for grief counseling for others, you know
something that you stand for.
karen kay says
We were watching The Beast last night that was his best work. My husband said, Patrick Swayze was our generation’s John Wayne. I really think that is right.
Quite a compliment. Patrick would love that.
I totally agree – Patrick was the John Wayne of our generation!
A man for all seasons.
Funny – my boyfriend and I watched The Beast also. He said the exact same thing about Patrick being like John Wayne when we were watching it! There have been so many sites on FB this past week with pictures of Patrick and saying he went too soon! He was loved and admired by men and women. No matter how much we enjoyed watching him and hate that he is gone- I always think about Lisa and how she is truly the one person who knew him completely and loved him unconditionally. There’s no comparison and I wish it was a love affair that we could have continued to admire. Her strength, honesty, grave and humor has truly been an inspiration regardless of her fame- she is a woman who simply loved her hubby.
Nadine Wood says
Hey Lisa, just thought of something funny. Did you dose off or fall asleep while cleaning? and with phone in hand! Looks like it in the third pic of this blog in front if your dresser. Cleaning is exhaustng isn’t it? 😉 LoL
Have a great day. xox Nadine
Work, work, work!
I wrote this about 20 years ago when my heart was broken. I don’t even remember why but here it is and I hope it helps someone:
A Toast To The Heart
How slowly this warm heart continues to keep pace as it must to bring forth the breath of life.
This heart grows weary of a never-ending assembly of monotony; always starting, yet knowing a panic when it is desperately needing rest.
Is it such an impossible task or is it instead simply too much to ask of a human intelligence to play to role of the heart?
Imagine, if you can, never possessing the power to put yourself at ease, come the end of another day in a field of physical labor.
Your beating heart knows this exhaustion; experiencing the sensation of being broken apart, crushed to pieces and yet expected to perform to perfection.
No ‘sympathy’ knows the ability to smile and murmur knowledge of mutual pain it has not suffered.
I say only this: As the mind awakens to a new-born sun of morn, let it therefore offer salutations of respect toward such incredible generosity which allows the mind to exist at all.
Here’s to the heart !
Thank you. I also watched My Girl 2 the other day and when the actress who plays Veda’s mother sang the song “Smile” – I thought of those of us who have lost loved ones. If we keep smiling and realizing the “beating” that our hearts take on a daily basis and allow ourselves to grieve but allow ourselves to be happy again at the same time, it eases some of the pain. If God brings us to it, God will bring us through it. I’m also clairvoyant (for my friends and family only) and I have had proof that the only thing that happens when we die is a transformation to a spiritual body from a human body. Our loved ones can visit when we call them to us just as God is called to us through prayer. It’s comforting to know.
Watching you and Patrick on tv.. One last dance…. I always enjoyed watching Patrick, and admired the love that you guys had for each other. I’ve prayed for you often these last couple years and I hope you have found the peace that I feel he would have wanted for you. Good luck to you …and God bless 🙂
karen kay says
It was reported today that Dustin Hoffman has cancer. Do not know how reliable this is. I hope it is not true.
I hope not. And if he does, I hope it’s treatable!
karen kay says
Have you noticed everyone is affected by this horrible disease. My mom has breast that went to bone still living been over 8 yrs. My brother in early 60’s lung cancer they called it farmer’s lung he was dead in 6 month’s he just did not want to treat. My grandpa died from cancer. 2 uncle’s. Enough. Of course you can read anything. You know that. Not sure how reliable TMZ is. I hope not to.
I read something today:
Yesterday is History
Tomorrow is a Mystery
Today is a gift,
That is why we call it a present
Live for today!
Been thinking about you alot this month with patricks birthday coming up. Do you ever attend the dirty dancing festival in north carolina? Are any books in the making? take care lisa.
I’m getting ready to start another book, and work on some other material also. Time to get back to it, which means I need to not let all the clutter in my life get in the way! And no, haven’t been to North Carolina since Patrick shot Dirty Dancing.
karen kay says
I look forward to the next book. I did not think you were selling the ranch but, you never know. It has got to be hard making all of the decisions. When 1 of the partner’s are gone. You have to believe 50% of what you read. Have a good day. Raining again here in Arkansas.
hope you´re doing good and that you´re having or had a good time in New Mex.
To be honest, Patrick´s boot collection makes me speechless. I never thought that a man could have so many pair of shoes. I mean that ´s only his boot collection…..Unbelieveable. :-))))
I can imagine it must be difficult for you to decide what to keep of all the stuff and what to put away.
It´s been nearly 5 years now since my Dad passed away (but it feels everyday like yesterday) and we still have all his clothes. Some relatives keep saying that we finally have to get rid of them and I keep saying to them: Mind your own business.
My Mom gave me my dad´s first pair of Baby shoes (my Grandma had them in a little box for over sixty years) and they are one of my most valuable treasures.
I have to say I love the picture of you and the doggys: Kuma looks like Mr. Innocence himself and Lucas as if he doesn´t know what to think of the whole situation. But someone´s missing….. where´s little Murphy?
Take care of you Lisa.
Like always lot´s of huggs to you and kisses to the doggys
karen kay says
Lisa, have you viewed the tribute on you tube to Patrick and Don it is beautiful. Brothers is the title.
I’ll take a look.
karen kay says
I hope it will not be to painful for you if it going to knock you down do not look. But, tell Don about it they really look alike with Patrick’s hair long and beard.
Go to http://www.youtube.com
Patrick Swayze Brothers.
They also have the skit P did with Chris Farley. Hilarious!!!!!! He was so talented. I also know a lot of his talent could be traced back to you helping him you were a team!!!! That is why you stayed together for all those yrs. You kept pulling in the same direction and you never gave up. He picked the right one when he picked you. Because most women would of said see ya!! Took there part and split.
Like I say do not watch the video if it is going to give you a bad day!!!! I would not want that to happen.
Well I have been planning on getting some horse time in for a week but, we are having an average of 3 storms a day thunder, lightning the works!!! So it is storming again so not horse time today. I guess gym time.
Hug’s Girl from Arkansas!
Oh lisa i am so happy that another book is in the making. What will this one be about? So glad to here that you are not selling the ranch. Its beautiful. Do you know about the dirty dancing festival?
Got a couple things I’m thinking about.
Someone mentioned the festival. I knew they did something, or other!http://lisaniemiswayz.wpengine.com/wp-admin/edit-comments.php?comment_status=moderated&paged=1&approved=1#comments-form
Are you doing any book signings anywhere around in the south..? We live in Mississippi. Would enjoying coming to one, if are ever in this area. 🙂
Not at the moment. Thanks for asking!
Brenda S Miguel says
Lisa first of all I want to say you and Patrick are 2 wonderful people and actress and actor
that there ever was. You dance so, beautifully together you are a perfect match made in heaven. But
are you going to be anywhere near Charleston, South Carolina for a book signing anytime? I would
love to come to it. I cry every time I watch Patrick’s movies I think my favorite would have to Point Break and City Of Joy, then Ghost, Dirty Dancing. HAPPY HOLIDAYS ! Take Care Love You A Friend
No plans for Charleston at the moment, but I wouldn’t mind it there were. I love Charleston. Got to spend a lot of time there when Patrick was shooting North and South! Great city!
lee ann says
I found this blog (kind of) by accident. My husband and I live in the Los Angeles area (foothills) and have our house up for sale.
For some strange reason I keep having the Bill Medley song from Dirty Dancing in my head so I just watched it on YouTube. Maybe the whole “I’ve had the time of my life” line goes alone with a personal theme right now. I’m still in active treatment for breast cancer and at the same time we’re planning on leaving California . . . a place I always wanted to live – so there are all kinds of bittersweet moments. We’ve lived in this house for seven years, the longest I’ve lived anywhere since childhood, and when I look out the windows at the mountains I already feel wistful yet I feel a sense of excitement about the next chapter in our lives.
At the same time there’s The Stuff to be dealt with and dealing with it during radiation is the last thing I feel like doing yet I know I’ll ultimately feel better getting rid of The Stuff (or most of the stuff). The Stuff makes me feel wistful as well and I can only deal with it for an hour or two at a time. We’ve already taken trunk-loads of TS (the stuff) to Goodwill but it seems we haven’t even made a dent.
All that said, yes, I can relate to what you’ve described and your brother’s line about accumulating stuff and then ridding ourselves of stuff is spot on.
The plan is to build a house in Arizona so we’ll even need an interim place for our stuff and that’s driving OCD- me even battier. Perhaps it’s something in the weather, even though the Santa Ana winds aren’t really in season. A season for de-stuffing is upon us.
Good luck with your Herculean task, Lisa. Perhaps I’ll wake up in the morning more inspired to tackle my own Augean stables.
Hah! It’s said that when you clear out the old, you make room for the new. And in your case, this is definitely so!
Do you have moments where you think or feel that there is a force or something between heaven and earth you cannot understand? I mean that our loved ones that passed on give us signs? In particular this year there are moments or situations where I had or have the impression that there is a force which helps me in different situations.
We had the week off and were hiking today, what have you done today?
Yoga! And yes, I often feel guided.
Where did you Yoga? Do you go out to have Yoga or do you let a trainer comes to you? Are you in L.A. at the moment or in New Mexico? On what it depends if you are in New Mexico or in L.A.? I am glad that you often feel guided, so we have something in common ;-). Did you watch movies recently? We watched Gangster Squad and Django Unchained and I am a Twiheart. I loves the Twilight-Saga. Have you watched the Twilight-Movies?
Hugging you, Melanie
GOOD EVENING LISA. I GO A LITTLE ‘AGAINST CURRENT AND I SAY THAT ALL THE “STUFF” I’d keep WERE YOU. THE STUFF AND ‘PATRICK AND NOT SERVE knocking her’ GET A DO NOT THINK OF HIM, YOU LACK EVEN MORE ‘. YOUR LOVE AND’ STATE AND ‘TOO BIG TO DIMENTICARE.QUINDI AUCTION IF YOU WANT TO PUT SOMETHING BUT NOT ALL “STUFF” WHY ‘THE STUFF AND’ YOUR LIFE AND HIS …. BARBARA WITH LOVE (ITALY
LISA SORRY, BUT I’M WRITING IN ITALIAN AND GOOGLE TRANSLATE AND THEREFORE IS NOT ‘SO CORRECT VI KISSES AND ALWAYS ALWAYS THINK I LOOK AT YOUR POST AND TWITTER .. BACI
BARBARA MARTINENGO says
HELLO LISA .. SORRY BUT YOUR BOOK AND Worth fighting for ‘ONLY 1 OR MORE’ BOOKS? WHY ‘I SAW IT WITH DIFFERENT COVER … Can you tell me .. AND THEN WE WANT THEM IN ITALIAN .. BACI
For some reason, publishers in Europe like to use a different cover than the US version. They say that their audience responses differently in Europe. Don’t know if I agree!
karen kay says
Lisa, I do not agree I like the U.S. cover!!
I do, too!
Maritsa Andersson says
My name is Maritsa and I’m from Finland. I’ve been thinking to write to you for a couple of weeks now. Yes, I’m a typical ‘over-thinker’ (is that even a word?) and I’m still not sure about this…
Ummm… a lot of things on my mind… First of all, do you believe in coincidences? I don’t. I believe everything happens for a reason. The good and the bad.
I found your blog in a funny way. Namely, through Scandinavian music! I’m a big fan of this Norwegian pop band called a-ha (their big hit was ‘Take on me’ in the 80’s) and every time I listen to their music on YouTube, your husband’s name appears in the comment section. Every time. People are constantly sending new comments about how the singer of a-ha resembles of your husband. For example, please take a look at the recent comments in
This made me curious, so I searched your husband in the web. And yes, during the search I noticed something about a-ha’s singer’s birthday that can make your imagination fly… but above all, I found your website. And I’m glad that I did. I mean, look at me, I’m usually VERY cautious to write anything in the Internet! You clearly inspire me a lot and give me courage by being very open in your blog.
Okay, I’ll be open in return. This is our story in short… My husband (40 yrs) has survived two cancers. He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in 2000 when he was only 27 years old. The doctors were puzzled, because patients of this cancer are usually much older. While the others were celebrating the Millennium, we went through hell. Chemotherapy, radiotherapy, radical surgery… and with God’s help, the cancer was beaten. Everything was fine until the year 2009 when suddenly a lump appeared under my husband’s left ear. It turned out be a metastasis from an aggressive cancer in his left tonsil. The odd thing is that this second cancer did not rise from the esophageal cancer but was totally a new one. We were devastated. How can this happen twice for one person? And in such a young age? For heaven’s sake, what’s wrong with his cells!? So, we had to face yet another battle of life and death. And again, with God’s help, everything is fine today. And we are very thankful for it. But… I can’t help thinking about the future. Is there going to be yet another cancer? We have two children now. And to be honest, I’m still exhausted from the last ones. Sometimes the waves of depression just overwhelm me and I shout: MINÄ HUKUN! I’m drowning!
Well, I guess I just have to leave it in the hands of God. I know one can not live in constant fear. I refuse to. Instead, we must live in hope, ‘ELPIDA’, as they say it in Greek (my father is from Cyprus, that’s why I know this). The word ‘hope’ actually inspired us to give our house a name ‘Villa Elpida’. And this is Villa Elpida, a miracle that happened in 2011:
I’ve noticed music helps a lot. Here are two songs (in Finnish, I’m afraid) by another favorite band of mine, Bass’n Helen.
It’s rough music, I know, but you know what, life is rough, too. I love the singer’s ability to interpret the pains of life.
Take care Lisa.
P.S. Sorry about the long letter, but one last thing… While exploring the Internet I found out one detail. It seems that my mother and your mother have the same family name. I always knew about your Finnish background, but this piece of information is totally new to me. I know that my great-grandfather went to America with his brother in the 1900’s or 1910’s. My great-grandfather came back to Finland, but his brother stayed in America. The last thing we know about him is that he settled in Michigan. So, maybe we are not in the same family tree… However, I’d sure like to come to the US one day and have a search for my long lost family members! I hope it’s not too late to find them.
Hi Maritsa. I’m sure you and your husband tremendous sisu in dealing with his cancer! It’s a tough thing to face, but also can make you realize what’s really important in life. We’re not here forever. Time to “get on with it!”
Maritsa Andersson says
Hi Lisa. Thanks for your answer. I feel the same way: It is time to move on and focus on the dreams and important things in life. So far, I’ve been afraid to really LIVE my life. Or rather, I have not allowed me to live my life in order to protect myself from disappointments. I have had this bad mentality: ‘What we have today can be suddenly taken away tomorrow any way, so why bother?’. But that’s NOT the way to do it, I realize it now. I don’t want to just exist and be a bystander any more. Life is short and not living it to the fullest is a waste. A sin, even.
So, we’ll continue our big journey with hope in our hearts… some ideas in our heads… and SISU, of course!! ;-D
You’ve taught me a lot Lisa.
It sure takes a long time to heal, doesn’t it. I’m just now starting to dare to believe in life again.
Eileen Munkvold says
Loss, more or less
What it is all about …..
There must be a card hidden behind the mirror, who one day will be revealed to us, a state where time, space and matter will cease in the form we know and emerge as the finest matter of love and perfection, which we all are back to our dear, a state of contentment and happiness … (google tarnslate)
nadine wood says
Hi Lisa just thinking about you as we will soon be approaching Patrick’s birthday. I hope that as these years have passed, it gets easier for you and the grief and sadness is replaced with happy n beautiful memories.
Anyway just wanted you to know you are thought about and I hope you celebrate with happy thoughts. Patrick may be gone but he will never be forgotten, what a wonderful legacy he left behind. This lasting legacy can also make it more difficult to move forward, but moving forward and getting on with your life does not mean that you are forgetting him. We know you could never forget him! I can almost hear him say: ” you either get busy living or busy dying” (emotionally that is) and we know which one he would suggest for you. Celebrate life, move forward but keep the memories in your heart where no one can steal them away or replace them. You just keep adding new memories.
As his birthday approaches and people want to do something special. I wanted to let you know I received a postcard from Stanford Center with a new address for those wanting to sent gifts.
The new address is: Stanford University, Development Services, PO box 20466, Stanford, Ca 94309-0466. you may want to verify this to update the section on your website if this involves donations in Patrick’s memory. My love and thoughts will be with you as we celebrate a beautiful life that walked this earth. Rainbows to you as always Nadine XOX
Thanks for the “heads up.” XL
We hope that you be great .We wanted to tell you that it made us very happy to send you the hydrangea and package for your birthday and have had a response from you. Today and for the 4th year we will pay tribute to Patrick for september 14th sending a floral wreath on his star has hollywood blvd. Here is a picture of the flowers hoping that you plaise.If this project is feasible, it is with the participations of the fans and to the creation of the association “SWAYZANGEL”. All additional funds will go directly to ‘Patrick Swayze Pancreatic Cancer Research Fund. “Let’ s hope we can really dévelloped other projects around the cinema and dance can help you research and honor you and Patrick for difficil but nevertheless worthy fight you lead. Hoping that our commitment that you like and you are convinced of our dedication and our sincerity.You we ask how we thank you for your birthday gift! Although we have provided you with pleasure and without expecting anything in return today will be something really great of you! The only thing we lack to advance without problems would be to have your permission to continue your support and organize various events and sales fot find donations. This is what you could do for us in hoping for an answer from you, we wish you the best!! PS.! your blog is great, real good times reading .Maybe one day we see pictures and words on the new life of your hydrangea! Thank you for everything! Frienship! AUrelie and Grace, team of SWAYZANGEL.
What has happened to the forest you and Patrick were doing? Was it by the new mexico ranch and are you still doing it?
Still healthy and growing!
Barbara EJ Bennett says
Dear Lisa, This de-cluttering journey is never ending. I keep trying – but something you said really hit home with me – I spend more of my time trying to get organized, catch up, de-clutter, and less time on me and those I love. Thank you for sharing yourself with others — I am so inspired by you and am looking forward to hearing more from your journey. You are an inspiration for all of us.
I am at my desk and my toes are curling as I process through piles of paper work and photographs. I recall your memory of Patrick on his knees in the bathroom rummaging under the sink and saying “I want it all gone”.
I feel exactly the same way right now.
Sorting and organizing can only accomplish so much!
I am also reminded of your words about living life now – while we are young and able.
You are inspiration to me – an honest look at what is – what can be done – and what we truly want.
May you enjoy rare moments of simplicity and hope.
Thank you, Lilly. And good luck with your (and my) quest. We can do it!
Hi Lisa ,nun haben wir den 18.August,Patricks 61.Geburtstag,mal wieder ein trauriger Tag für dich, meine Gedanken werden bei dir sein und vor allen Dingen bei Patrick, ich wünsche ihn alles, alles Gute zu seinem Ehrentag, auch wenn er nicht mehr unter uns weilt, aber ich werde immer ein Platz in meinen Herzen für ihn haben und ihn nie vergessen. Es ist einfach toll das er von so vielen Fans nicht vergessen wird, findest du das nicht auch wundervoll. Ich werde Patrick heute noch eine Kerze anzünden und für ihn beten. Es ist in den 4 Jahren noch kein Tag vergangen, wo ich nicht an Patrick und an dich denken musste, ihr seid für mich einfach immer das Wundervollste gewesen und werdet es auch immer bleiben. Ich wünsche dir einen schönen Tag, ich umarme dich, Heike aus Thüringen
Brenda H. says
Today would have been Patrick’s birthday. We just have to believe, he’s in a much better place than we are. Lisa, I hope your pain is slowly turning into a smile in rememberance or even a celebration of a life that was so truely legendary.
I’m thinking a lot about you this day and sending you all the positive energy I have to help you to keep moving forward, as you do wonderfully well, in your life.
Thanks to you, and everyone on these so kind thoughts on this day. It was very sad for me. But I’m feeling much better now.
karen kay says
He was gone to soon. But, glad he was here.
Crissy Anderson says
I am going thru the same thing as you right now with de-cluttering my 6700 sq ft log cabin. We are downsizing and moving to the beach! I used to be a Minature Donkey Breeder and actually named all of my jacks after Patrick. I did send their Registration Papers to Patrick’s Fan Club and was hoping he got to see them before he got too sick to read all of his fan mail. He was so loved by everyone! In my herd, I had Black Jack Cruz (Black Dog), Roadhouse Dalton, Johnny Castle, and of course “Mister Swayze” who I just recently found a wonderful home for with my wild Donkey “Sweet Sedona Dream” aka “Baby”. These little donkeys were such a wonderful part of my life, but as you get older, you can’t do everything you used to do and I had sprained my ankle coming out of the tack room and had to make a decision about downsizing. I recently also lost both of my dogs so now I am down to 1 cat and 2 horses.. I know it must be very hard for you to go thru Patrick’s things, but maybe you can either put them up for auction on ebay or have a silent auction and donate money to Pancreatic Cancer. Whatever you do, it will free up your life! I am finding so much stuff that I have had hiding in closets, the basement, for what? For 13yrs they just sat there in a box..and what a good feeling after the room is all cleaned up and vacummed.. I will try to sell some on Ebay, but who has the time, so I most likely will just donate to Good Will or Salvation Army. Do you still ride your horses and do you still have Patrick’s beautiful Horse? I believe you have Arabians..what georgeous creatures they are! Good Luck to you Lisa, know you have lots of friends out there who really care about you..You are an amazing Woman and never forget that! Hugs and Kisses sent your way today! Crissy
6700 sq ft! You’ve got you’re work cut out for you! Thanks for writing. L
nadine wood says
Thoughts of you were on my mind all day on what would have been Patrick’s 61st birthday.. Hope you had a beautiful day. RIP Patrick, gone but never forgotten. Your faithful fans will always treasure you and honor your memory through support of PanCan Research, your films and songs. I regret not ever having the opportunity to meet Patrick as I was so looking forward to it at Time of my Life, but it was not to be God Bless you Lisa. Lisa, I’m so happy I had the opportunity to meet you in NYC at the release of Worth Fighting For. You probably don’t remember me but I do have a pic of us together. I brought you the Angel of Light and wore purple in honor of Patrick. Much love and sending rainbows your way XOX. Nadine
wishing patrick a happy birthday today. Thinking of you. He is so missed. love reading your blogs. Hope knowing that all of his fans have not forgotten him helps you today. You are in my thoughts.
I am sure you know this already,
RUN FROM THE CURE , Rick Simpson.
karen kay says
I just found out that a great Mary Kay mentor who battled cancer for over 35 yrs has passed. She was first diagnosed with breast cancer and it returned she has had various forms of cancer. Her Dr Khan told her she had taken chemo longer than any one over 35 yrs. Rena Tarbet. Cancer affects everyone. They have named a Cancer Center after her.
Cathy Zaragoza says
I was thinking about you today and wondered how you were doing. I lost my husband (54) in June of 2008. I felt for you when Patrick passed on. I can identify with this post so much. I am finally letting go of more of my Steven’s things after 5 years. I am very sentimental so this is never easy! I found love again and this has helped but it also is difficult to find the right balance between the husband who has gone and don’t want to forget and be respectful and sensitive to the new love. I am happy you are feeling better and having better days. Also wanted to say that I loved Ghost and rewatched it a few months after my loss….could sure identify!
karen kay says
We just finished Road House. What an infectious laugh he had. A great actor. I am thinking of you today Lisa.
Brenda H. says
I would love for a chance at having a pair of Patrick’s boots. They need to be brought back to Texas soil.
Joanna Kontos Evans says
Dearest loveliest Lisa,
Sorry I have been absent for a while, I was away for a month and had no Internet access but I want you to know my thoughts are always with you but more so on the 18 Aug your Buddies birthday and today. . . I can’t believe its four years and I still miss Buddy being here so can only imagine how hard today is going to be for you.
I am not going to parrot things that have been said many times before, I just hope this day passes without knocking you completely off balance as you are doing an amazing job of living and honouring the memory of your beloved. . .
Much love, hugs, and kisses always
Joanna Kontos Evans says
Lisa I just realized its not actually the 14th today I was so sure it was, but my sentiments remain the same. . .
I’m just impressed that you went a whole month without Internet access! You show that it CAN be done! Bravo.
Joanna Kontos Evans says
Indeed it can which is a good job too since my computer literacy is horrendous!
I should have been born in the stone ages. . .
Joanna Kontos Evans says
May today surround you with warm hugs, and plenty of tender loving care. . .
Sending much love Lisa as always.
Hi lisa. Thinking of you today. We all miss patrick so much. Can not believe its been 4 years. Prayers are with you for your mother in law. Stay strong lisa. We love you.
Brenda h. says
Hope Patsy is doing better & God be with u all on this tough day!
Ingrid Mennella says
Thoughts are with you and the entire Swayze family today both for Patrick and Patsy. Prayers are being said to grant you all strength thru this difficult time.
Karen Richard says
My husband just returned from Afghanistan… and noticed all the “stuff” that was missing. Through out the last 2 years I weeded out every single box in the attic, garage, closets and rooms. Couldn’t stand the clutter anymore and every month gave a huge donation to the paralyzed veterans. It really is liberating to clean out the clutter. I reminisced, packed it and said goodbye. I think there is more air to breathe now ~grin~
Eileen Munkvold says
Lisa, I saw this on face book, and so thought I would mention how sad my friends and I were of Patrick’s death. My grandmother lived close to Patrick, and my sister, cousins, and friends went to school with him, not in the same class. I met Patrick and you in Reno at the horse show several (10 or more?) years ago. My sister Dodie had an Arabian gelding that descended from Patrick’s horse’s line. He stood and talked to us for a long time, a very polite man.
Eileen Munkvold says
When I saw this, I had to cry. So beautiful!
Lisa is a strong, “pretty tough” beautiful and intelligent woman …
I noticed something she said in an earlier blog post: “I dare not stop to mourn the loss of Patrick because then I felt like I was losing him. Lisa, we need not be faithful to grief, but our love …
And I noticed something Patrick said during the final interview, when you burst into tears because the interviewer asked you the question about how you thought life would be without Patrick. Whereupon Patrick looks at you and says, “That will be fine” with a face that shone with love and respect …
I remember that. Thank you.
Hi there, I log on to your blog like every week. Your humoristic
style is witty, keep it up!
Dear Lisa i think you are right
You and Patrick had a blast in life, you were the perfect couple.
You know, i’ve been bond with my boyfriend for almost 8 years now and this year we bought our first house and we started to live togethere. We are waiting our salary each month for renwing and buy new stuff just for our home………..
I immediately wanted to make a photo of our first night there , like you did with Patrick in you little house ( i red your 2 books and i loved them ). Somehow i thought that making that photo will help me tremember our life go on………. and so when i will be old i will watch that picture and could remember.
Regarding your ” stuff ” well, i’m a fashion crazy stylist woman and i’m overwhelmed by my stuff, but i understand the fact that someday in life you need to tide up your closet as you tide up your piece of life……….
But i really hope you didn’t through away Patrick ‘ boots………………………. If you do tell me, i want them! 🙂
Having his pic, his videos, his movies and his stuff is the only way to remember him, so do not through them away!
Lisa, happy,happy life with your new husband….
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Do you know what ever happened to the Boots that Patrick wore in Dirty Dancing? They were featured in quite a lot of close-ups.
Has anyone even ask you this question before? haha
( Shoe Maker)
No, no one has ever asked that before. I’d had to look at the movie to see them again. Patrick was very particular about his shoes when he danced. They’re probably the same shoes he used when we danced at the World Music Awards. I’ll take a look sometime!
Hi Lisa. Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate it. I asked this question because judy garland’s ruby slippers are held at smithsonian. I think you have a treasure in hidden in the collection, they are Cuban heel style, slightly round toecap.
I also want to let you know that I recently acquired a pair of wooden Shoe forms that were made for Patrick to create shoe or boots for him.. I will take good care of them.
Having and fighting ovarian cancer, surgery and chemo stage 3c. Tough. Feeling good on some days i went thru all my “stuff’ donated and got rid of so much. Freeing. What Patrick ever tested for the BRCA gene mutation? We are BRCA 1+. Ladies get a CA 125 test don’t for your ovarian. Sister, me, cousin and now 32 year old niece Julie Knutson fighting ovarian cancer.
Hello Lisa. I have recently read both your book and Patrick’s book this week. I have always been a fan of Patrick’s work. I have come to respect and admire you Lisa. You are an inspiration to us all. I wish nothing but the best for you.
Thank you, Marie.