Seems everywhere I turn, there’s more info on “clearing your clutter!” Magazines, TV shows, and even Oprah’s website regularly feature articles on it. And I just received yet another book on clearing clutter, and like a hungry person, I dove right into reading about clearing out the clothes in my closet. (Yes, it’s true. I want to know how to purge even better)! In this book, it suggested that I hold each, individual piece of clothing in my hands, and feel it’s energy before deciding.
I was dismayed. Who has that kind of time?
Sometimes I feel that my things are already ruling my life. Why would I want to devote even more time to them? Isn’t that defeating the purpose?
Just starting…
First of all, I’d like to know why I am so obsessed with clearing my clutter (obviously, from the abundance of articles, I’m not the only one). Is it the new “make my life better” concept, like the great, new laundry detergent that will make my entire life sparkle? Or, is it that all this “stuff” really is dragging me down, and once it is gone, I will feel FREE, FREE, FREE! Whatever, I am counted in the ranks of the obsessed; I think about it in my spare time; I read those Oprah articles when I can, and plot and plan when I’m going to put all my pens and pencils in one plastic easy-to-see-through bin that will stack with the others in my pantry.
The shredding truck shows up at the ranch!
I just got through moving out of a home that I had lived in for over thirty years into a smaller, more manageable place. Let me tell ya, this gives new meaning to the word **“purge.” And while I don’t really want to get into the emotions of going through a goodly lifetime of memories at this moment, my “Widow’s Walk” as I call it, the confrontational
My daily hairdo.
decisions, and the extremely distasteful task of going through over two hundred file boxes in my storage room, and three decades of other collected stuff…
Magically, it all got done.
Did I feel better? Hmmm. The fact is – two months later, I’m still organizing. Still packing, and unpacking. And still shifting my home, and my life around, trying to figure out how my old stuff fits in the new, very different house, what needs to stay, and what needs to go. As far as I’m concerned –
I’ve graduated to a higher, advanced level of clearing clutter.
I have visions of a pristine, clutter-less environment. Light, and load-less..
Ah! This looks beautiful to me!
..My surroundings about moving into the future, and who I am now – not yesterday. And yes, I’ll feel free as a bird, and my life will look like the rooms in those decorating magazines, you know, the ones that look like no one lives in them. I’m sure you’ve noticed – there’s no stack of unread material littering a side table, no mail on the kitchen counter, car keys in a dish, the sweater you just draped over the dining room chair along with the laundry you have yet to iron and fold. There’s not even a dangling wire to charge a cellphone!
Who lives like these people in the magazines??
But, yes. It is possible to have a room, or two, that looks like that. I’ve seen them. But these belong to people that glide through their abodes (with a full-time maid standing behind the door), lighting upon a couch for a moment before moving on to something else in their lives. Even they don’t look like they live there, it’s like they’re just visiting.
There’s a wonderful Will Rogers quote I love. He says, “I never lie about my age. I want people to know why I look the way I do.”
I’m thinking about adjusting my outlook. As I’m setting up my house, I am finding that I want some of my old stuff in the place; pictures, posters, mementos, and cherished pieces of furniture that don’t fit. I want some clutter. Albeit, judicious clutter. And why?
Cause when I walk in my home I want to know how, and remember “why” I got there.
Patrick and I, starting out. 40 years ago.
One thing I recognized in going through over thirty years of “stuff” (and this is a lesson learned from holding/feeling each of those items in my hands, so maybe it’s not just a bad idea to spend the extra time doing this) is that I’ve lived quite a life to this point. A big life. I don’t want my home to look like I just got here. I’ve gone through bumps and bruises, laughter, love, and good fortune. I’ve earned where I am, and the life I am now living. Perfect, imperfect, full of opportunity. I can spring into the future, because of the foundations of my past. And I’m grateful for it. I can embrace it. And it can, if I let it, give me the power to move on.
Well, okay, then. I’m ready!
Now… If I can only get unpacked.
**For those who are concerned – no valuable memorabilia, or sensitive and personal items were harmed in this move.
Lisa I have thought of you ever since the news broke that you sold the ranch. I am sure it must have been a difficult time going through all the wonderful memories, collectibles, etc. that you and Patrick collected and shared. I hope you had a lot of smiles mixed in with the tears. What great timing for your blog to come out…it cheered me up as today is my late husband’s birthday. He would have been 65 today, gone far too soon 4.5 years ago. The anniversaries are the hardest days to get through. Send me some of that power to move on please as I will need it when I make the decision to sell our home. Best wishes to you and enjoy your new home.
Hah! I definitely say – sell only when you think you’re ready! It’s quite a ride. And yes, in the midst of tears, I had so many wonderful moments, and much laughter. Probably more so, than the sad moments. Hang in there on your anniversary. Best, L
Hi Lisa:
Who did you sell your house to? I’ve heard so many confusing stories. Someone even told me that you gave it to a young couple that reminded you of Patrick and yourself. It is a wonderful place, and so much built by loving hands. I don’t think I would be able to give it up, if it were me. However, I am not in your shoes and actually am glad I’m not. Many loved Patrick.
Sad to hear you have moved from the ranch. Don’t know if I could do that. I don’t like change and do not accept it very well. I love my home where I have lived 40 years. I lost my 18 year old daughter who was raised here and I could never leave as I would feel I was leaving her behind. The trees and flowers planted in her memory. No, I need to stay here, but everyone is different. Are you going to set up a memorial of some kind for Patrick with the stuff he had left behind, that would be great so the fans could come and pay their respects to him. I will give you an example, the late James Dean has a museum in the hometown where he was born and all kinds of memobila to buy and to just look at. You walk in and you feel his presence there. It would be fantastic to have a place like that to go to for Patrick. Just like with Elvis at Graceland, I have been there 4 times and you know he is there, it wonderful what Cilla and the rest have done for him, he will never be forgotten. Neither will Patrick even if we don’t have a place to visit. Happy for you if you feel better, but please think about something for Patrick’s fans. Blessings in you new home.
I’ve always had thoughts of a memorial somewhere, but Rancho Bizarro would not have worked very well. Maybe Texas? Hmmm.
Absolutely TEXAS!! We are so proud of u guys!
Yes, it would be a great place. His birth place. Bet he would like that a lot. Please don’t wait to long, some of us are getting older and won’t be able to travel before long. Old age is creeping up on us.
great article Lisa. You unpack
Lisa, it is so good to hear from you after so long. As I get older I think “who is going to want this after I am gone.” That is one of my criteria for letting things go I haven’t been able to let go of ever. I will always keep some of those “forever ” things as I can change my location but my soul is” forever.”
Keep inspiring us.
Love and blessings
Sioux
No kidding! I chuckled as I read this (and wish I could post a picture of what I hauled off from our ranch and Knot-2-Shabby airport. I had clutter GALORE in my airplane hanger, barn and house. I finally backed up a large dump trailer I have, and as a “public service” to mankind, decided instead of taking 99% of it to Goodwill (my “stuff” would have made anyone miserable) I tossed it in the trailer and drove to the area landfill.
I did though keep a 1941 Continental A-80 aircraft engine that I hope to donate to the WASP Museum in Sweetwater, TX. All the other stuff is “history” and I feel so much better now.
Have to say, it’s amazing how much stuff we accumulate. And whatever the heck for? I’m sure you felt hundreds of pounds lighter after you hauled off that stuff!
My goodness Lisa,
I know this situation very well. We have just moved house after 13 years and the boxes just keep coming out of the woodwork ( it seems ) I am a sewer…. don’t need to explain that one…. my ‘stash’ dates back over 40 years. Ha! I’m trying to be brutal and cull everything that, I know, I will never use. But it is so hard! I’d love a pristine house but, it wouldn’t be a ‘home’ without the precious bits and pieces that show ‘how we got here’. Just like the grey hair and ‘laughter lines’.
I love reading about your journey. Thank you so much for sharing it. Very best wishes for your new home and life. Sending lots of positive thoughts.
Dear Lisa,
thanks for writing again. Lisa it must be very hard for you to go through this process…I`m sure that one part of you would love to never part with any of this so beloved memories and the other part says…I want to move on and MUST do that! Whatever you decide ..its hard..very hard. But never forget..you have all this memories in your heart..nothing is lost ! If you will ever plan a memorial place for Patrick that would be great , please do feel deep inside you if you really want this..if not its ok too…no one has the right to tell you what you have to do or what not. Yes..we fans do really want a little bit of Patrick , to own a piece that actually really has belonged to him would be a dream for every fan …but this is also up to you, I can truly understand that you are not ready to do this right now..take all the time you need to find out … All The Best Ever For You!
Lisa , as it is difficult for us too .. After all these years , it’s like us also leaves the ranch ..
Be Happy
Tatiane / Brazil
I’m know they will love it. This couple reminded me of Patrick and me when we first saw the ranch. It was pretty cool.
Dearest Lisa , you are a breath of fresh air and an endless inspiration . I have just discovered your blog last night and I simply devoured it in a few hours . Your strength and grace poured through your words and brought me ( and I’m sure , many others ) great comfort . If you ever find yourself in Dubai , you have yourself a private guide or accommodation , if needed 🙂 . Thank you for you .
Manuela M.
Dubai! I’v been a few times. Thank you for writing, Manuela.
Hi lisa.
so glad to finally hear from you. I am sure it was one crazy ride to sell the ranch and to go through all of the memories. I am sure you can feel Patrick’s spirit with you always. Do you still have the New Mexico ranch? Please keep posting your blogs. Love to read them. do you still have all of your animals? Take care lisa.
janelle
Actually, getting to spend some time in New Mexico right now with my dogs, kitty, horses, and of course, Albert!
Dear Lisa..I am sorry my comment is not waiti g For accomodation any more..maybe I wrote something wrong..I didn’t want to disappoint you..believe me..I’sorry..I only said that I really hope the new owner of the ranch Will love it the same way Patrick love it..It’s a special place …his hashes and His soul rest there.I wish you and Albert all the best..
Oops. There was a glitch. Your comment did get posted (at least I thought it did). But I look and see that for some reason it didn’t! And yes, I couldn’t have asked for better new owners. It made it feel like I was “handing the ranch over,” rather than just selling it. Here was my reply from earlier –
I’m know they will love it. This couple reminded me of Patrick and me when we first saw the ranch. It was pretty cool.
Thanks Lisa..what a relief!!I thought I had disappointed you..I really admire you Your strengh and courage the same way I used to admire Patrick ..thanks For Your two replies..and thanks For sharing Your emotions and feeling with us.you are Able to give voice to emotions..only gifted People can do that!!A big Kiss from Italy! Have you ever been in Italy? I hope so!!
Hi Lisa good luck with your unpacking and hope you and Albert will be very happy in your new home, it’s quite an adventure to start a fresh any thought of new puppy for you and Albert as they soon make a place a home lots of love sent to you both God Bless xxxoxox julie
Greetings to you Lisa from Ireland. Belated congratulations on your marriage to Albert, so glad you have found happiness again .
To be honest with you I hadn’t paid much attention to Patrick’s death in 2009 as my mother 63 died that year from cancer after a 5 year battle, we had 3 kids since and cancer has revisited our extended family again.
I imported a Chevy 57 from the USA last February which I am using for weddings etc https://www.facebook.com/pages/American-Vintage-Car-in-Ireland/876784939021247?ref=hl and was delighted to see Patrick drove one in Dirty Dancing which I viewed again recently, great movie which has brought me back to my late teenage years.
I have been watching all the you tube clips of yourself and Patrick which are wonderful especially with your late mother in law at her dance studio in 1988 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6mbmqKtlyw
I really am so sorry for your loss, Patrick didn’t forget where he came from but yet had the where with all to deal with a world who wanted a piece of him, it can’t have been easy for both of you.
Best of luck to you Lisa and well done in all your fund raising.
Regards, Paul
PS If ever in Ireland make sure to drop us a line.
Dear Lisa
It’s great to hear from you again, thank you for taking time for a new blog after those definitely exhausting months of packing and unpacking!
Happy to hear that you managed such a major move, probably the most demanding of your life, so well! I’m sure it must have taken tons of courage and inner strength (beside the physical side of sorting, packing and moving things around!) to take this decision and be able to bid farewell to Rancho Bizzaro. But I’m equally sure you must have known deep down and felt in accordance with Patrick that it was the right thing to do.
And I guess Albert – and Patrick! – were supporting you in any way they possibly could, being your “bridge over troubled water” in those what must have been very difficult months of finding the right new owners and organising everything. Guiding and helping you over the bridge from your so very special past to all what lies ahead, new and unknown, but promising. Lisa, I strongly believe that NOTHING will make Patrick happier than knowing you happy again!
By the way, I think I’ve just read the same book about clutter clearing as you did. Taking literally everything out of its place, piling on the floor, taking each item in your hand and asking yourself if it sparks joy or not. If it doesn’t, thanking it for whatever service it has given or what it has taught you, even if this means only that it has taught you that you didn’t need it in the first place or that it has given you a brief joy while purchasing it…. The thing is: while clutter clearing my place (which is only a small flat!) and having read your older blog about putting things in order at the ranch, each time I wanted to give up, I took heart by thinking “keep going, you have to clear only a small apartment, this is nothing compared to what it must be to clear a big house or a ranch, more so if there is grief involved”. Chapeau Lisa, you did it with bravery!!!
Take care!
Best wishes and greetings from Switzerland
Heidi
Hey Heidi. Yes, that’s the very book! And while I was a little “put off” by the book at first, it has really grown on me, and helped me with things, like, “This is brand new, I can’t throw it away even though it doesn’t look good on me!” And yes, I believe Patrick has been watching, and supporting me, all the way.
Yes, certain parts of the book seemed first pretty weird to me too, but it helped me exactly in the same way you say! The older I get (I’m your age) the more I aim to seriously cut down on my belongings. And having been drawn to clutter clearing books and articles as well since long, this book was the first one that really worked for me. Probably also due to the fact that it really helped me deal with a certain feeling of shame and guilt to have accumulated so many (unnecessary) things over the years. I guess that one of the few good things about getting older is getting eventually a bit wiser, so I’m aiming to not only create more free physical space but also to make more room for the people and the dog in my life!
So glad to hear that you felt Patricks support while taking this difficult step, that’s wonderful Lisa. I’ll keep sending good thoughts and blessings your and Patrick’s way.
All the best
Heidi
P.S. “One Last Dance” is truly touching and so very beautiful, it’s easy to see that everyone involved put their very heart in it! It lifts me up each time I watch it!
My older brother said it in a great way – “You spend the 1st part of your life accumulating things, and the 2nd part, trying to give it away.”
When I was a kid my grandmother called anything other than spring cleaning “molting”. Happy molting, here is to becoming a beautiful butterfly.
Hi Lisa,
Not sure if received my comment before the weekend as my internet coverage is very weak as we are away during these summer months supporting my brother in law (37) who has 3 very young kids as is battling with cancer, he just has had his second dose of Chemo.
So again greetings to you from Ireland and belated congratulations on your marriage to Albert, so glad you have found happiness again .
To be honest with you I hadn’t paid much attention to Patrick’s death in 2009 as my mother 63 died that year from cancer after a 5 year battle. It was really a very hard time for all the family.
What lead me to your life story is that I imported a Chevy 57 from the Wisconsin last February which I am using for weddings etc https://www.facebook.com/pages/American-Vintage-Car-in-Ireland/876784939021247?ref=hl and I was delighted to see Patrick drove one in Dirty Dancing which I viewed again recently, great movie which has brought me back to my late teenage years and as I said lead me to come across more of you and Patrick’s story and what a story it is.
I have been watching all the you tube clips of yourself and Patrick which are wonderful especially with your late mother in law at her dance studio in 1988 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6mbmqKtlyw
I really have taken on his motto of “get busy living or get busy dying”., we have 3 kids 5, 3 and 1 so there’s no choice around here but to be busy living, LOL.
I am so sorry for your loss, Patrick didn’t forget where he came from but yet had the where with all to deal with a world who wanted a piece of him, it can’t have been easy for both of you.
Life really is a battle and your a person who not along is fighting for yourself but for a lot of other people as well. Where do you find the strength I don’t know.
Best of luck to you Lisa and well done in all your fund raising.
Regards, Paul
PS If ever in Ireland make sure to drop us a line maybe give us a like on my facebook page above.
PPS If ever doing some awareness campaigning in Ireland and you need some guidance maybe I can help.
Hi Lisa,
At least, you got to sell the ranch. It’s good for you but for us, Patrick’s fans is a big loss and a bit sorrow. I don’t know if the ranch will continue as usual but i think everything will change and Rancho Bizarro will not be the same anymore.Is it true that housing will be built in this area?, i appreciate you will answer me that doubt.
Any member of Swayze’s family wanted to stay there o buy the ranch? , i appreciate your answer too.
I guess it was hard to leave such a nice place and switch to 100% all your life, I hope it’s for good and you do not regret in the future of this great change and you do not leave any void in your soul.
Good luck,
although you do not need it.You have a blessing to yours while living side
Maite Sánchez
Yes, it was very hard leaving a home that I had lived in for thirty years. So much had happened there. But as I said in another post, the couple that took over the ranch are wonderful people. They reminded me so much of Patrick and myself when we 1st moved in there (which was prior to the mini-series “North and South”)! The ranch is in good hands, and trust me, Patrick’s spirit would much prefer to be out in the wilderness smelling fresh pine, earth, sparkling air, and his favorite horse’s skin.
Are u going to be able to have the dogs in the condo, or are they going to have to stay behind in New Mexico?
I’d be in a condo, but I don’t think there’s one that would work for my 145lb Ridgeback! All decisions go through the animals. That means a house with a yard!
Hello Lisa, I am from India & just wanna say that I had posted a comment on your last blog, which is still pending your approval. I have already talked there about that special connection I feel with You & Patrick. of course I have read both the books????, but it’s more then that, I was & will eternal be a Patrick Swayze Fan & Admirer, & his presence in my life looms big in a very strange and special way, & you are a very special lady too. Wish u peace & joy always, stay blessed.
Sweety
In 1983 I buried my 55 yr old entertainer husband. I didn’t move. I did eliminate many things, donations to colleges, museums etc. the transition is forever. The strength comes from the good life you had. The new life is centered on personal resolution to continue to grow & learn. I was studying the civil war when I watched North & South I added to my knowledge & became fascinated with Patrick’s work, his unrealistic determination & your participation in his success. I now have all his movies & your books. I particularly love One Last Dance & your commentary. I never remarried because my next interest died of cancer also. Life is okay single. Productivity, service & personal satisfaction is enough. I hope coming events in your life will bring happiness.
Hah, Carolyn. I love what you say about “the transition is forever.” Certainly for me, almost 6 years in, I’m still adjusting everyday. Since you’ve been dealing with this since 83′, I’m figuring that this is something that will define my days for some time to come. That’s okay, though. It’s become my “new normal,” and I’m now feeling that I am learning from this loss in a positive way. XXX my best to you.
Thanks I wish you all the best.
Olá, Lisa!
Vejo hoje que você está seguindo.
É muito bom saber que as coisas, aos poucos, se ajeitaram.
A saudade fica e é impossível ver você, sem associar ao Patrick.
Lindo rancho, linda casa nova!
Felicidades!
My husband was a minimalist. He died in a plane crash two months ago.
I have thought of you recently as I watched your process over the years and sent you love during your sorrow. And now I know in my bones what you felt. And one day, I will know how you feel now, after the healing of time.
My husband was a minimalist and I can hear him telling me to let it all go. Even his cowboy boots, still by the door, soft and shiny from many cleanings.
Heavy or light of burden or belongings they can distract or envelope us.
I visualize different grades of screens. When we sift, if we have tight holes in our sifters, we keep more and release less. At some point, having shifted and sifted long enough, we choose the screen with the largest holes and let the majority of “stuff” fall through and go on to benefit others – returned to the cycle of life. This way we won’t find ourselves organizing and sifting until the day we die.
I am hoping for peace as I approach the widows walk.
And clarity to know what to adopt and what to discard.
For now I will keep his boots, though.
Thank you for sharing, and as always, for being so brave, Lisa.
I am so sorry for your loss, Kristin. As much as you can, please be gentle with yourself. And know that you will get through this (and actually smile again one day). And you’ll know when it’s time to let any things go. Give yourself as much time as you need. One thing I know for myself, you can’t hurry the process. It is what it’s going to be. Just hang in there. My best to you – L
Thank you Lisa. Your words are a comfort.
Kristin
Hey Lisa, it’s great you found the courage to let go. Hope things go great on your new journey. Are you still keen to act, do you have any project in pipeline, a great book, Here Come The Girls. Worth a read.
Dear Lisa, I wondet how People can be so cruel…I have been told that I was a fool if I believe you sole ranch bizarro to a Young couple who reminded you of Patrick and you when you first saw the ranch..they told the ranch Will be destroyed…how sad…I suggested them to Read Your last commenta you posted..I hope they Will change their mind…kisses
I don’t know where they got their information! Rancho Bizarro continues as it always has – full of horses, pets, creativity, and music. From what I heard, they’re expanding the riding arena. So the ranch is becoming better than ever!
I’m sure it Will be better.. I Know that it’s not easy For you- to be judged For Your choices..but I want you to Know that lots of People admire you and are gratuful because you share Your emotions with us. You decided to let us be part of Your life..and personally I’m happy when you rely to My comment..not only because Patrick’wife (I really admire Your beloved Buddy)is writing tome,but also becausr Lisa Niemi ( an inspiring and talented woman ) has Read my words and has decided that I deserve a reply. Sorry For my English..I was born in Brooklyn but my family (my parents were Italians) decided to come back Italy when I was three so my English is not fluently..kisses
The few suggestions I have after reading your latest blog entry. First you say. “My house would the correct term not be Albert’ s and my home. Nobody I have spoken with understands why you use the name Swayze when it should be Lisa Niemi DePrisco. I just wonder how this makes Albert feel? Getting rid if clutter as you say means letting go of your deceased husband’s name. I think people who respect that more and not feel you are hanging on to the name Swayze for financial gain. You keeping referring to yourself as a widow….You are not you are married to Albert. I just feel as many others do that your blogs always mentioning Patrick , you are being very disrespectful to Albert.
Hi, Tammy. I always try to be very sensitive to my wonderful Albert’s feelings. And to let you know, he (luckily) does not have the problems you are concerned about. He knows that I had an amazing, and loving relationship for over thirty-four years with my late husband, Patrick, and that relationship continues on after death, and will for the rest of my life. We are both grateful that we have each other now. And if I were to change my name, it would be Lisa Swayze DePrisco – after the two men in my life that I love, and have meant the most to me.
Hi Lisa, I think it is very disrespectful some of those comments you have been receiving lately especially from “T”. You do your own thing and call yourself whatever you like, it’s nobody else’s business. You are more than entitled to include Swayze in your name, after all 2 become one when they get married and I’m sure Patrick’s success was due in no little part played by you. You go girl. Paul (in Ireland)
I know there are a lot of wonderful people out there. Thank you for your kind words!
PS Remember Lisa, you are Patrick’s voice now so you keep talking. Paul.
Hi Lisa
18th August – hope today will only bring you joyful memories just as Patrick has left us with only joyful memories! Have a great day and do something that makes you happy and makes your heart sign……..or your feet dance!!!
Happy birthday to Patrick today, thinking of you guys today. Paul.
Hi Lisa,
I just came across your blog. I have accumulated stuff…not sure where to start. its things like cards and letters and such that i am worried about not keeping. The clothes I have not problems with finding a new home. I seem to always find an excuse to not deal with it all. I hope that you are doing well. Be happy in your new home…. xx
Welcome to an exercise in frustration! Hah! You know, you’ll get it to it when you get to it.
Hi Lisa
Just wishing you and Albert all the best in your new home, just so pleased that you are finding happiness again it’s a great feeling as I know when I married again and started a fresh new home new job whole new family too as hubby has lovely family who are now part of my life. You always have memories but you also make many new ones with this new life take care and love to you both XX0X0XX Julie
Lisa
I’m so sorry not to have lived this era of internet with Patrick still alive because I would love to know more about your thoughts as well as read their required .. by deijar in some way closer to him …
Tatiane / Brazil
It would have been Amazing …have the chance to be closer to him..
Hi Lisa, just read “The Time of my Life” (for the third time!)…but this time I was moved to tears at the end (Patricks vows) where he says he was grateful to you for being his friend! And no sooner had I read that and the song “She’s like the Wind” came on the radio! Wow!
I know what you mean! “She’s Like the Wind” has started to play at the most amazing times for me, too. I love it when I hear it.
Добрый день, Лиза. Я очень далека от всего происходящего с вами. Скажите, пожалуйста, а прах Патрика где? Где место преклонения Патрику Суэйзи? Я очень люблю его и меня очень интересуют данные вопросы. Заранее спасибо.
Lisa , good afternoon . I love Patrick Swayze , I have a few questions : 1. where the ashes of Patrick that you do to him? 2. Is there a place where it prekloleniya with what this place is connected?
Lisa , by the way so she called my daughter 2 years old, you do not want to make a film about the life of Patrick Swayze ? It would be very interesting …
I wish I could share that information with you, Natali, but it feels too private to share.
A film? Hmmm. Maybe one day!
Welcome Liza.Menya name Natali.Ya Rosii.Mne of 36 years, two children , the youngest 2 years old, named Lisa , her husband , parents died . The husband has no roditeley.U 1.5 years ago I had a stroke , right side and did not move . I love Patrick Swayze , and I can still relive the tragedy . You are a very strong person , I admire you , and would like to talk to you . I became disabled and looking for support in your face. I’m so sorry that you do not have to Patrick detey.Liza can correspond with you , to be your friend ?
I think that the wonderful “she’s Like the Wind” is the way he says “I’m still here”..one night ,after reading Your blog, I was thinking about him and thinking abour His wonderful life..I was listening to music and suddenly…his voice singing that wonderful song..so impressed that I started to cry..
Hi. Just finished watching Patrick in Ghost……what a graceful and beautiful man he was! Its such a lovely movie and probably has a message for us al that Patrick delivers himself at the end…….you are so lucky to be able to watch him on film…….
Take care, be happy.
Dear Lisa
You are in my thoughts today as in those of so many out there, feel hugged. Wishing you a day surrounded by family and friends.
Heidi
Aww.. For some reason this past anniversary of his death was particularly hard. I just now read your message, and thank you. Wished I read it earlier! I appreciate it.
Hey Lisa,
Thinking of you (and Patrick) today. Time passing very quickly, six years have already gone since my mom and Patrick died. Unbelievable!
Love, Melanie
Hi Lisa, thought of you on the 14th Sept. 6 years has gone by so quickly! The photo you posted of Patrick yesterday of him sailing on the sea and looking so happy …….then driving to work today I listened to a Glen Campbell song – Galveston……reminded me of Patrick……….catching a train to Galveston to go surfing ……..and it made me think of that photo you posted! Keep doing what you are doing Lisa. I think you are an amazing woman and so inspirational……and I really need that right now……..i’m packing up a home after 20 years…..so emotional!
Miss your blogs Lisa. Hope we hear from you again.
Hi Lisa,
I have only just come across your blog and your novel and am so inspired reading about your strength, it feels a privilege to be able to share in your grief and your beautiful memories of Patrick.
The written word is deeply therapeutic and I am sure that writing and sharing your story must help you to heal.
I lost my sister to cancer October 24th 2009. I have not allowed myself to fully grieve her passing and have always been disconnected from my emotions surrounding her loss even when she was unwell I could not face the truth of what was happening.
I am in the midst of recovering from drug addiction, a true avoidance of feeling. Just lately I have begun to feel and to grieve…but my grief is attached to celebrities and the death of strangers! I don’t know whether this is some form of displacement, somewhow it is easier to grieve for somebody I didn’t know? I find myself obsessively scouring YouTube and reading every small detail hungry for a deeper attachment, an outlet for my pain.
Patrick – being ill with cancer and passing so close to my sister – has reignited these feelings I had not allowed myself to experience for so long.
Of course I did not know him but I was inspired by his brave battle which reflected my sister’s; like Patrick she was predicted to last month’s but her positive outlook and fighting spirit held her for three years.
I have long been an admirer of Patrick, a beautiful man, talented dancer, actor, horseman and musician. He appeared to live life to the full as did my sister, two beautiful and talented individuals dedicated to fully embracing life.
I have been inspired by your story and have found comfort in reading of your courage. I am sure that Patrick is with you as my sister is always with me.
I would like to thank you for sharing with the world your brave battle and helping people like me who struggle to connect with their direct grief but find comfort in stories such as yours. Working through grief together, each individual story giving one another hope and courage.
Thank you for reading and I hope that my words and story have been of some comfort to you as yours has been of comfort to me.
Elizabeth, Derbyshire, England.
Thank you, Elizabeth. I am wishing the best in your journey!!
Hi Lisa! I hope you’ll Write another blog.I found out you blog some months ago And I often check For a new blog or For Your replies to pur commenta.I have already written other post and I thank you because you have Always replied to My comments.I’m writing again to asl you a question:have you ever been in Italy? And what about Patrick..has be never been Here? In these days zI’m waiting For Your two books..I order rhem on Amazon! I can’t wait to Read them!! A big Kiss and I wish a merry Christmas to you and Albert
Sorry For the mistales!!! What a shame!! But I’m not very keen at using touch screens! Sorry????
Yes, we’ve been to Italy. One of my favorite countries!
Your books just delivered..I’m going to start Reading with a sense of curiosity and sadness…I wish it could everything end in a different way…I wish he could win His brave Battle..so strong..so brave..fearless..talented.He was everything as Baby says in the movie.So unfair…
I keep on Reading…speechless….I’ can’t find the right words to express My emotions..you are the one Able to use words to express feelings sensations…thanks. You have tought a Great lesson..worth fighting For…never give up..say the People you love that love them..enjot the present..huh the one you love telling them you Will never leave them alone no matter what happens…it is easy to share our lives when everything is ok.
Beautiful words. Thank you, Marisa.
Hi Lisa,
my name is Solenne and I’m from south of France. I would like to know how you succeed, when Patrick was ill to keep always your smile and being strong for him. Indeed, my mother has cancer since 4 years now and I must admit that I’m not so strong. I would like to be but it’s difficult and it’s difficult to talk together about the end. How did you do? Where did you find the strength? Sometimes after hanging up the phone with my mother, I spend days to come back to life and smile again. This is so hard! She is my so loved mother, my best friend, my sister,…I admire you regarding the way you faced this moment providing so much love, strength and hope to Patrick. Please, tell me how you found all this strength and hope ? Solenne
Hi Solenne. Sorry I have taken so long to get back on my website!
I hope you mother is doing well. No doubt about it, this journey you’re on is so hard. I know I felt like I was living in a nightmare when Patrick was ill. However, I did my best to concentrate on the love we shared. It was overwhelmingly huge! It’s in times like these that we really learn how to appreciate someone, truly love and appreciate them beyond what you could have imagined. Every day we have with them is something to cherish. It’s a lesson I hope to remember always. Now, the love is the good part. The bad part is losing them, or the impending loss. There is a high price we pay for loving. And you just have to get through it. I know that if you had the choice to choose the relationship with your mother all over again, you would choose to do it a thousand-times over, even knowing the pain you suffer. You just have to get through it. Just keep going as best you can. And celebrate the love you’ve had with her, and will continue to have after she’s gone. L
Ps. Patrick and I talked about “the end” only once in all of his illness. And that took only about 2 – 3 minutes. It was all I needed to find out what he wanted. Just wait for the right opportunity..
Hi Lisa. Thanks a lot for your answer. This is really what I’m trying to do. In the past I was always living in the future. Now, I can tell that this illness has brought me something positive, I can say that I really try to live in the present, each day! I take each opportunity to go to see her. We would have probably never spend so much time together without this. Each moment is more intense. I even appreciate each moment of my life, with my 3 daughters much more. Thanks again for all those advises and I hope you are doing well. Life is beautiful so let’s live it to the full.
Hi Lisa, hope all is well and you are settled into your new life with Albert. I still check in from time to time to see what’s new with you on you blog.I think of you and hope your are stronger and enjoying your new life. Just an fyi. did you hear a tv musical is in the making for Dirty Dancing starring Abigail Breslin? That should be interesting. So glad that Patrick’s work keep popping up, along with remake of Roadhouse. It keeps his spirit n memory alive. Patrick’s fans will never let him be forgotten. Thank you for keeping you fight for pancreatic cancer. Patrick is ver fortunate to have you in his corner.
Love n light with rainbows being sent your way.Hope you are still enjoying your angel. xoxo
Hi Lisa,
Paul from Ireland here again, just read your book “The time of my life”, really enjoyed it, couldn’t put it down, finished it in 2 days, very honest account of your lives together.
Of course I loved Patrick’s reference to his Irishness plus going for beers with our own Liam Neelson, I’d say they were good nights.
You guys worked so hard for what you achieved and were multi talented plus very resourceful.
Would love to see you get a part in the new “Dirty Dancing” TV film that they say they are going to produce, maybe you want to run a hundred miles from it, Lol.
Very busy here in Ireland doing weddings etc with my 57 Chevy (Like Patrick’s in DD) only thing it’s in Baby blue, the ladies just love that it’s the same as “Johnny’s”.
Have a wonderful Christmas.
Regards,
Paul.
Where are you Lisa? we miss your blogs!.??
I’ve been seriously MIA! Hoping to get back to things soon. It’s been a rough few months. Ah!
Lisa, my best friend and I caught “Dirty Dancing” at a local movie house in Austin, TX on Wednesday evening – part of their romance series.
After the movie, I told my friend how much I loved it and how much I miss Patrick – such a talented actor, dancer, singer. My goodness, you are so gracious to answer these comments when you’re able. And how awesome that you continue to move forward. Albert is one blessed man!
Just ordered both of your books and look forward to reading them soon.
If you have another blog, please let me know. I’d love to follow. . .
Blessings to you – MB
Hi Lisa. How are you doing? We haven’t heard from you in so long…….you are missed! !
Hi Lisa, I just wanted to say that I think you are a very brave inspiring women . I have both your books and I found your book moving forward very moving. Its beautifully written and I felt like i was on your heartbreakng journey with you.
I’m so happy that you have managed to find happiness again with your Albert. Sending you lots or best wishes for your future xx Sarah xx from Norfolk in England
Gosh, Aimee. I wouldn’t trust where you’re getting your information if I were you. From what I heard, first hand, everything is going along fine there (not that it’s any of our business). Ya know?